Straight Up Insane!!! men Answer seriously, women welcome?

Question

i had a conversation with my male friend yesterday and he just took the word insane to a whole different Level. He gets mad at me once he asks me what my sis and cus says about him. they say he dosent respect me and i was telling him about what the males associates say and he flips! he says im no fool i know you talk to other men cause thats all your sis hang out with? just dont ask me where im going or what im doing?! i mean guys what is his issue. the jobs i get dosent give me enough hours. medical school is stupid to him. i dont cook good enough. he says things like your not a women, your crazy, i dont like the way u think, physically your not what i want, you cant do anything 4 me, i dont care if u leave or stay, get the **** out! Why is he in my business so much and accuses me of this stuff, and then he says hes not gonna be affectionate with me, he dosent. he pouts like a kid and if i get angry he say who u talking too? i mean really whats his issue

well finacialy Medical school takes pretty much all the money. i work 2 parttime jobs. My sis says he jealous of what im doing i mean were both young 21,22 years old.

sorry i say male friend so much but hes my fiance,

Answer 1

whats in your head lady, what are you thinking! are you thinking . of course hes jealous beause he doesnt have anything going on in his life. let me read this joker for you. he probably smokes weed alot, has low self-esteem issues, not looking to educate himself farther then the 12th grade if he's made it that far and not to mention he doesnt have much respect for women because looks how he treats you. i dont want to bring his moma into the picture but if he treats you like this, wonder how he treats his mom. or is he mimicking his fathers behavior toward women. hes a loser. drop that zero and get a hero. you will not get pass the bustop with this guy let alone GO. he has too many issues himself. HE WILL NOT ENHANCE YOUR LIFE AT ALL, MOVE ON. you dont need this expereince. life is too short!

Answer 2

Dear Beaten down,

You need to grow some balls in leave that jerk alone! This guy will do nothing but pull you down, probably beat you down so much it would be a miracle you'll finish medical school.
This is a time you should be focus without any distractions, as far as I'm concerned he's definitely an abusive distraction. He may not physically abuse you but he's definitely succeeding mentally. There's only a matter of time before he begins to physically abuse you.
My golly, hasn't school taught you enough, at least not to put up with crap like this? Where is your self dignity and self esteem?
I suggest you do what you need to do as far as removing yourself from this situation. In fact, I recommend you get counseling to find out why you continue to stay in such abusive relationship. Remember, the key word he's your fiance. All the writings are on the wall. Once you are married things will only get worst. What makes you think you can change him? He's definitely jealous, perhaps threaten by you. You need to come down from the clouds and fly back to earth.
Get yourself counseling. You're are definitely beginning a cycle with abusive relationships. Break the cycle and definitely break up with him. LEAVE!

Answer 3

He sounds like a possessive, pretentious little dweeb that needs a reality check. And I'm a man, 37 years of age. From what I can tell, he's acting exactly like an atypical teen jock in high school. It appears your intelligence, physical appearance, your ability to fellowship with friends, your ambition, and your perseverance are giving him a Freudian response. Otherwise, he feels like his manhood is on the firing line but he's too lazy (or stupid) to get up and do something.

Let's put it this way, I say this because I was very much like your fiance. Only I had the tragedy of losing mine to a car wreck (I wasn't there, but she was coming on to I-44 in Tulsa, OK in her Dodge Colt when a semi changed lanes and wiped her car out). When I reflected on how I was, it was a very horrible experience that ultimately left me alone, suicidal, and homeless for several weeks. It took all of this hardship to get me to get off my butt and do something or end it.

When I had an opportunity to move to Idaho from Oklahoma, I took it. I was out to prove myself to myself (well to my family as well). Well it's 13 years later and I am still in Idaho. I've had the same home since 93 and had only 2 jobs since then. I now own my own compact, pontoon boat manufacturing business.

I just hope if your finance reads this, he doesn't have to go through my hardships. Nor anyone else for that matter.

Answer 4

Sweetheart,

He is not your friend. Friends encourage and lift us up, not tear us down and look like fools. I believe that he is jealous and fills good about himself when he tears you down. You need to look at this relationship and ask yourself.

1. Is he making me grow or dying on the inside.
2. Does he make me laugh or cry more.

Words are powerful, they bring life or death. Words of love encourage and allow us to dream so that we can become the women that we are called to be. Words of hate slowly kills us and we stop dreaming and we believe what we hear.

You have a good head on your shoulders and you already know the answer to this question. I believe that you have been confirmed and reconfirmed more than once concerning this relationship.

It's easier said than done, this much I know for sure. Stop looking at the crumb in the corner when you have an open field to walk into full of FREEDOM!!!!

Answer 5

He's bugged to the max. He doesn't feel worthy of you and feels because of the position you're in you'll fall for someone of a higher caliber. He knows how guy's are and knows you'll be hit on and flirted with a lot and he doesn't want to lose the one thing he cares about the most, and that is YOU! insecurity is a really bad thing.

P.S. I've read the other answers and trust me, they are off base.

Answer 6

Because he is a "user"!! He degrade you to the point that you are unsure of yourself. He is a power monger, who wants total control over you and he is doing his best to "mind control" you to the point that you will do almost anything for him after awhile...

Get ahold of your life girl, and boot the bad boy out, because he aint no good for you!

Or, if you keep the fool, then get some councelling and find out WHY you are such a sucker!!! You need help in this relationship and if you dont get it soon, you will suffer for the rest of your life!

I wish you well..

Jesse

Answer 7

He's a JERK..you need to focus on school and work and not worry about some idiot that is just going to bring you down..Break it off and move on sweety you can do so much better..you will find someone who will stand by you through school and work..one who appreciates the meals you cook for him. All this JERK is doing is bringing you down..Good Luck

Answer 8

Control Freak! , hun your with a little boy that is throwing temper tantrums.. he may physically be a man, but mentally he's still a little boy.. get rid of him before it becomes a phsyical abuse issue , right now its mental abuse.. which from expierence the mental abuse scars last alot longer then the physical.. so get out while you can.. he has alot of growing up to do..

Answer 9

YOUNG AND INSECURE,maturity is what you have going on,insecurity is what jealousy is, he not handling you have it going on, and he uses what ever he can to lash out at you, he needs to grow up and accept it, and he needs to quit trying to bring you down to his level, he wants to dominate and control every situation that is in your life,he doesn't accept you for you, uncontrolled anger is what that is called and when you call it insane he lashes out at you and pouts, you might have to make some changes your self, he needs to grow up and gets some help if he wants you two to be together.

Answer 10

You are still young, you don't need to marry someone who disrespects you and is not supportive of what you want to do with your life! You should just leave and find your true self before you tie yourself down! It sounds like this man is a selfish conniving asshole that just wants things for him self, and he is so full of him self that he thinks you will just keep taking his ****!!! Since he told you that he doesn't care if you leave or stay,You should leave! you are just hurting yourself if you stay!!!!
Good Luck
& God Bless You!!!!!