i live with my boyfriend and he is diagnosed as manic-depressive. during his "depressive" stage he is verbally and sometimes physically abusive. i want out, and i sure will not miss him. i looked at other questions on here similiar to this one and most say just to leave. hard to do when you have no family or friends nearby and not enough income to get another place and pay for movers, etc. i do have my own car but it' s in a repair shop owned by his friend (and i believe my boyfriend has told him to take his time, it's been there for two months and can't be moved because the motor mount has been taken off). he will not leave and will not let me leave. i'm prepared to let everything go except irreplaceables but where do i go? how will i get to work? i also have a dog and i'm not sure the women's shelter will take me in with my pooch. I've been looking for rooms for rent with no luck so far, any other suggestions?
2006-06-30 05:12:27 · 12 answers · asked by yanswer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I live near Houston, TX in Nassau Bay, TX- my family lives in another state
2006-07-05 05:59:50 · update #1
Your safety is more important than things or dogs...get the hell out...and worry about your thing or your dog later..if family cna help cool or friends great if not find a shelter and there are those for abused women. and they have ways to help you get setarted with your life but the main thing is to get to where you are safe.
2006-06-30 05:22:32 · answer #1 · answered by djmantx 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
o God i know how hard that is because im going through the same thing! except my male friend hasnt been diagnosed. some would say leave and end it like that but i say this is the perfect time to be sneaky!! you have to get money anyway you can. meaning open and acct for yourself and save every Penny u get and some of the silver and if you have a job save half of it. and in the mean time get reliable friends and dont tell anyone your business. also try to encourage him to get help or call hospital anonymously and say u need help 4 someone.
I know not having family, or friends, or and money is very hard becuase then you will end up solid and alone! im toughing it out right now as i type and all the while im still succeeding in my personal life, (work,school,ect) so you do too. if he likes to beat on you or jsut abuses you, start meeting new friends you have a car!! i dont so get out there when you need too, please feel free to email me at any time becuase i do need another friend in whom i can talk to and share with.
2006-06-30 05:22:27 · answer #2 · answered by gotchafool05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save up enough money to get another car.Some places do puy here pay here. So you could take about 500.00 to one of them places and they will let you take off with a car that day. OK after you have done that then start saveing for the 1st months rent and deposit. You might be looking at 600.00to 700.00 for that. All of this is going to take time so don't think it will happen in a few daus .It might take a few months.But if you really want out of that then save up some money. Good luck.
2006-06-30 05:30:58 · answer #3 · answered by TinkerBell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the situation gets bad enough, sometimes, "you gotta do, what you gotta do!" Leave car, house, things, and just take the clothes on your back,but, get out of an abusive realtionship. All these things are replaceable, but you are NOT! Get a friend to keep your dog until you get another place, then go for him. Go to a woman's shelter for a few days to get your bearings, then pursue another place.
2006-06-30 05:19:10 · answer #4 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee sounds like my situation about 5 years ago. I know how you feel and right now you need support from your family and friends, you have to get out. Trust me I have been in that very place you are in now except it was after I got out of the hospital because he beat me so bad My own family didn't know who I was. Do the right thing for you and not him he doesn't care about you when hes hitting you. I know its hard to do not because your going to miss him but trust me you'll miss the body being there at night or when hes not mean to you. It took me some time to realize that I didn't need him or the body but I wanted the body there, but I didnt after all. In days and weeks to come you will feel your worst but just hang in there. You will be ok if you just leave now.
2006-06-30 08:15:05 · answer #5 · answered by Missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a good relationship with any of your family, call them and ask them to come and get you. I would gladly retrieve ANY family member who needed help! The important thing is for you to GET OUT NOW! As you are leaving, mail a certified letter to the guy who is repairing your car. In the letter state that he has two weeks to give you a reasonable repair date or you will contact a lawyer!
2006-06-30 05:18:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off go down to the courthouse get a restraining order against the man, the police will come out and remove him from your property- that will give you the house to stay in until you get your car back - demand your car be returned to you a.s.a.p. or your going to get lawyers involved- (you don't really have to but that will motivate them to step it up, and if you call them everyday to see how far your cars coming they will get tired of you and finish quicker) stop making excuses or your life will be in danger soon. Next, there is housing that will charge based on your income- they usually have a waiting list, but you still have your house now, for a little while. make sure to meet friends so that your not by yourself at night- there are alot of "nice" guys that are willing to help a damsel in distress- I wish I knew where you were- I'd be more than happy to help out.
2006-06-30 05:31:00 · answer #7 · answered by shannon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry to hear this, but your best bet is going to be to just leave, and you may have to leave with nothing,but sometimes starting over is the best option.the car though, you can call another car shop with a tow truck to come and pull the car if he has not done anywork to it then you want have to pay him for anything if he has then pay him what you owe him and let someone else do the repairs on it and believe me just because he has it now does not mean someone has can't fix it.
2006-06-30 05:20:49 · answer #8 · answered by browneyedgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu can also call a womens shelter. I would file for a protection order. He will get booted out of the house until the situation is resolved.
2006-06-30 07:39:30 · answer #9 · answered by Carp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first of all couple questions, How old are you? you say you dont have any family at all? no out of town relatives? I am just asking these so I can get a better understanding of whats going on besides the abuse. let me know.
Jk
2006-06-30 05:22:06 · answer #10 · answered by jkiefer73 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋