2006-06-30 04:43:24 · 13 answers · asked by Reesie 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
First of all I would like to say congrats!!!! I hope tht thew father of your child is just a bit scared and will hopefully come around sooner or later before the baby is born at least. But if not it may be a good thing. I had my baby in March of this year and I think I would do so much better I my babys father wasn't aound. He keeps me so depressed most of the time. He's constantly thinking of himself first before the baby. For, example my baby is learning how to turnover and has reached 3 months last week. He knew that I wanted to get her a play mat to put on the floor with the little toys that dangle down so she can hit em, and also the fact that she need some more clothes. But what does he do he goes and put a 5 hundred dollar system in his car. Im to the point where I just want to break up with him and put him on child support that way my baby won't be number 2 on his list and have everything that she needs. Also, instead of wanting to spend time with me (I am his girlfriend and baby's mother) he rather spend time with his buddy. It pisses me off so much because its an every day thing. His only excuse is that he's been knowing him for 5 years. So to me that mean just because you knew him longer basically its **** me. It really not worth all the stress girl. I'm a college student and tend not to be very dependent on anyone. So basically, lol im venting right now, if he does come around but you very unhappy and stressed don't be with him but if he does want to spend time with his child let him do so as much as he wants because just that alone will make you happy without having to be with him.
2006-06-30 12:03:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, he might be in denial for getting you pregnant. He said he was cool doesn't mean he's really cool with it. He might run away because he's too scared of the consequences.
I was pregnant, and after I told the father, I gave him about a month. I leave the country - and told him I'll contact him when I'm back. And he still there, so I know he's not leaving. But that one month is enough to give him time and think things through.
If he's going to come back, he's going to come back. Though it's good to know if he wants to be around/involved or not. If you have a way to contact him, try asking him - without really pressuring him - on what he wants to do.
If he decided not to be around, I guess you and the baby will be better off anyway. Your kid doesn't deserve a coward father anyway.
2006-06-30 05:14:37 · answer #2 · answered by meetha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two possibilities here. The best case scenerio is that he is a little scared, and he is searching his mind in hopes of getting back on track in his mind. The second is that he is having second thoughts and is getting ready to run. If the second is true, you will end up as a single Mom. I hope that this is not the case. I suggest that you force a conversation between the both of you and find out which is true. If he is getting ready to bolt, you need to think about a few things also. You need to ask yourself if you are ready to be a Mom, and you need to figure out if you can raise a child alone, and without possible support. I would also suggest that you talk to your parents to see if they will allow you to stay with them and help you in the raising of your child. If none of this will work for you, you might consider giving the baby up for adoption so that the child will have a better chance at life.
2006-06-30 05:10:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't spoken to the father of my child since I was 2 months pregnant, I'm now 8 months pregnant, and to be honest I couldn't be happier, he want's nothing to do with the child, so I say let him have his way, it's his loss on this wonder child that he has helped you create. I'm sure your family and friends will help you out loads too, mine sure did :), don't worry, after the child is born he could change his mind, and if he doesn't then is he really worth it?
2006-06-30 04:49:39 · answer #4 · answered by Chrissie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you refer to him as "the father" you didn't have much of a relationship. I that case he is scared probably in denial and is negatively thinking you're setting him up. Remember this baby is part of both of you. Open communication is the only way this baby will benefit. Stay in contact, invite him to the doctors visits maybe do some baby shopping do not total write him off Men are stupid when it comes this.
2006-06-30 04:57:29 · answer #5 · answered by ric_ozz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once again another reason why teens should not get pregnant, and why you should wait to have children after you are MARRIED!!
but being that you are both teenagers, he probably can't handle the fact that he is gonna have to grow up fast cause he is about to be a dad, so he is probably finding another female his age to be with that will not stress him out as much as you cause you are pregnant by him.
2006-06-30 04:49:51 · answer #6 · answered by half insane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probaly doesnt want to deal with the fact thatt he got you pregnant.. you need to tell him to get real and act like a man and if he diidnt want to be the father thats to bad he shouldnt of got you pregant and tell him its now not just ur responsibilty but his too! good luck!!
2006-06-30 04:47:12 · answer #7 · answered by ncfin3stchic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a dead-beat dad, make him pay take him to court dont have anything to do with him from here on
2006-06-30 05:20:26 · answer #8 · answered by Mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes scared..he will eventually come around..just keep him informed..show him ultrasound photos...when that babies here it will be his world
2006-06-30 04:45:29 · answer #9 · answered by mommy2savannah51405 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to let him know that he has to be wit you for the baby just not back out..
2006-06-30 05:02:00 · answer #10 · answered by fazzy0323 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋