Why does people care so much about teen moms?

Question

All I want to know is why is it a big deal to u ppl? Its our lifes is it not? I think some ppl dont understand some situations..like mine...I'm 15 and dated this guy for like 8months and we talked it over cause I was gettin ready to move away...I wanted to show him if only once how much I rly loved him (yes he was my first)and yes we used protection and didnt intend for me to get pregnant yet I did and she is the best thing that could have happend to me to tell the truth!

Answer 1

i think that they think our life is over once you have a kid, i don't know i'm only 14
i know i don't want to be prego when i'm 15

Answer 2

I was 18 when I got pregnant with my daughter I am now 22 I was a senior in HS and I had perfect grades and never did anything wrong, well I decided that it was time for me to lose my virginity to my long time Boyfriend so I did and we used protection and took all the extra steps so I wouldnt get pregnant but I did 4 months later I was pregnant. When your young everyone thinks your still a child no matter how old you are if your younger then them then you are a child. No one has a life anymore thats why they care so much and I know how you feel about it. When I was in school all of my teacher kept making comments to me like.....of all people we never thought you would be a s*ut.....I wouldnt consider that a s*ut but I guess other people do. Just do whats best for you and your child dont worry what other people say.

Answer 3

1. at 15, you cannot work to support your child.
2. at 15, your body is not prepared for motherhood like an adult body is
3. at 15, your mind is not mature enough to raise a child
4. at 15, you are supposed to be selfish and live a life and get an education
5. are you and the father still together? if not, it wasn't love, he wanted sex.
6. because protection doesn't always work (as you know) and unless you want a child, you shouldn't have sex. period.

I don't care what you do with your life. I'm sure you love your daughter, and I'm glad to hear that (considering how many mothers don't). My cousin was 14 when she had her first child. She has 5 now. She has no man in her life, she works fast food, and she can't go to school because she can't afford the baby sitter. People care about teen moms because there is so much that can go wrong and there are so many of us that have already done the wrong thing. We're trying to impart a little knowledge to you so that you don't have to make those mistakes yourself.

I hope you do love your daughter, always. I hope you and the father are still together despite the difference in location. I hope your life works out. You'll be in the minority of teen moms, but I hope for you anyway.

Answer 4

I don't think your life is over if you have a baby at 15 but it sure is hard. Unfortunately there are not enough teen moms who are responsible. Many crank out babies and expect to continue on with the care free life that a teenager should have. If that does not describe you, then congratulations and I commend you for doing the best you can for your child. But I really do believe that a kid should enjoy being a kid for as long as she can (at least until after high school).

Answer 5

I thought at 16 that having a baby wasn't a big deal. I married, dropped out of school, and struggled for years with depression. Now at 30, I have finally gotten my priorities in order. I understand now that I should have finished school, started a career, and then started a family. Instead I have struggled though college for the last five years, working many deadend jobs. Still married, 13 years this fall, but it hasn't always been a bed of roses. Most my friends that had babies in their teens haven't had such sucess stories. Their boyfriends left them...they live at home...highschool dropouts with no futures. I can't stress enough to young girls to live their lives..have fun..get an education...then think about babies.

Answer 6

Hello,

I hope you and your wonderful baby are blessed today and every day.

Sounds like you have gotten a little hurt by comments that have been made to you. Well, now that you're a parent, you're going to have to get used to that...and get past it...get over it...people will even say things to you when you're a married adult having children with your husband...part of being a parent is learning to be mature enough to listen to what other folks say and separate the good and helpful things from the condemning and berrating things..

Also, I hope you realize that unless you are living on your own and paying your own way for yourself and your baby, "people" (primarily your parents) are going to have lots to say because they are supporting you and a baby that they did not conceive and birth into this world.

Also, since you moved away, I'm assuming that the father is not involved in your baby's life actively because he doesn't live with you. And if you didn't know already, two stable parents in a child's life are essential for proper emotional growth and development.

I hope that you will check out the website someone else recommended to you that's run by the group called Parents Too Soon.

May the Lord God Almihghty bless you with the wisdom that you need to take excellent care of yourself and your baby until she is an adult and ready to go out on her own. And may you not continue to have sex and more babies until you're ready financially and have a committed partner...and may your children not have babies too young and have you helping them when you're trying to enjoy your baby free days of life

SIDENOTE:
And lets not forget the issue of HIV/AIDS which can kill you...there are at least 2 other answers on hear besides what you spoke of in your question regarding condoms not working.

Don't be fooled, young people, if it didn't work and you got pregnant, it could also not work and you could get AIDS which is microscopic and can't be detected as quickly as a pregnancy, unless you take the time to go get checked on purpose.

So, I pray that all of you sexually active teenagers (and adults) who are reading this information will take the time to get checked for HIV...PLEASE...don't let yourself keep spreading this horrible disease to people that you say you love.

Answer 7

I am speechless with you ashley. No, it isn't YOUR LIFE, and yes WE do understand some situations, most of us are adults, and have been there and done that. We know what mistakes we made and are trying to help teen girls not make the same. I am sure you will understand once you get older. So, you had sex with a guy at 14 years old, because I thought you said your daughter is 5 months old. Who cares for the baby? Are you going to school? Who pays for the baby's formula, diapers, wipes, clothes, and not to mention medical bills? You wanted to show him how much you truly love him, so you had sex with him?? That isn't the only way to show true love. Not to mention you said he was "older" than you. How old? You know there are laws against adults having sex with minors...

Answer 8

Because they are trying to help you... they may not know you but they know what happens when people ahve sex... they get pregnant and if 14-24 year olds are always out having sex then there is going to be liek a zillion little babys running around with kids who cant take care of them becuase there stupid or have no money and plus once you have a kid theres almost no way to go to school your SCREWED! ur pregnant now and you cant go to school and you wont get a better job than McDonalds and your kids not going to have the very best

Answer 9

In all honesty, you are still only a child. It is a shame that teens get pregnant because they have not experianced life as they were meant to. Having a baby as a teen robs you of some of your childhood. You are also unequipped to deal with a lot of the issues of being a parent. I hope that your parents are helping you raise your child, but I hope that they are making you and holding you responsible as well. This is not meant as an attack please don't take it as such. Your child has had the best oppertunity because you had the baby, and I congradulate you for not aborting the baby.

Answer 10

If you say so. You are 15. You know what you know by the age of 15. People who have lived a lot longer and experienced more rightfully believe we know different!

Please look up an organization called PARENTS TOO SOON. Ignore the name and sign up anyway. It offers parenting classes, social activities with other teen parents, counseling, and medical referrals and advice.

If you are as mature as you think you are you'll do this and it will help you be a better parent.

Good luck.

Answer 11

Too young, but hey your right it's your life...my mom had 2 kids by the time she was 16 and total of 4 by the time she was 21 and guess what she isn't shi.t and doesn't have shi.t! She never went past 8th grade education...do me a favor and be better than that!Finish school and go to college get a degree in something you enjoy and do it...make a good life for you and your daughter!