Married People: What's better?--Having kids, or not having kids?

Answer 1

If you need to ask, DON'T have children... yet.

Enjoy the many pleasures of childless living; travel, disposable income, a clean house, fine dining, etc.

When you are both tired of an organized, simple, freedom-filled life, then you can consider borrowing someone else's child for a few days. Don't rush into parenthood. It's great, but it's not the only way to have an incredible life!

Answer 2

I never wanted kids. Got pregnant. Fell in love with my baby and couldn't wait for more. Three kids now. I was happy until the marriage went sour. I love my children so much and I know I am a great mommy to them. There are many times that even though I adore them, I wish I would have not had any kids. Deep down that's what I wanted in life. Go with what you truely want. Children are a joy and fulfill your life, but its not always easy. Be sure before choosing kids. You can't exactly go back!

Answer 3

Not having kids. It allows you the freedom to move and grow as a couple without interference.

Once you have everything you physically need, and you can afford to have a full-time parent stay at home then adopt a child if you feel the need later.

Breeding for the sake of seeing what your kids will look like is selfish and irresponsible. If you really want a child, there are thousands of children who need homes.

Answer 4

There are pluses and negatives. First, having kids is great. Kids are a blessing. The joy of motherhood and fatherhood are wonderful. its great seeing them at their first day of school. Teaching them values and love for their fellow men is all great.
Its' neat to watch them grow up as well. Even though their might be heartaches...........its still worth it.............HOWEVER<<<<<<<<<<

What YOU read above is what Married couples WITH Children have told me over the past 20 years. My wife and I have been married for OVER 20 years and we don't have ANY children. (SHE COULD"NT).

Whats interesting is this:

Our married friends always have to find a sitter.
WE have sex an average of 3-4 times per week, and we are BOTH okay with that . We are best friends. We work out together, etc.

We can go anywhere, six flags, disneyland, go on a cruise, watch ANY movie we want, visit friends, take a mini vacation and not have the worries that a couple with kids do.

So its' all how you view it. Do you want to hear something funny?

A couple of years ago A good friend of mine and I were going on a church Camp out together up in the mountains of Central California. IT was he, his three sons and me in his SUV. All the way up the mountain on the way to the campground, he said. "you've got to have kids, their great. There is no greater joy that having children"......try adopting, it has gotten a lot easier. Talk to your wife. You guys will never know the joy of parenting unless you take the step. "you've gotta have kids" This went on for THREE yes ....THREE Hours .............I stayed quiet and listened to this well respected, bright, experienced, dignified man tell me this.

Four days later, on the way back.............................the same guy, same SUV, same KIDS....................."you guys are so lucky", you can go anywhere, do anything, have as much WHOOPIE as you want WHEN you want........and just get up and go. AND your blood pressure is probably lower than mine..and I work out every day. YOU guys are so lucky........If your happy without kids ....stay that way don't let anything or anyone sway you otherwise!" .......I smiled to myself and just listened.

So its all How YOU view it.

Answer 5

That is a tough question. My husband and I have a 2 year old. At times (NOT ALWAYS) I do miss it when it was just he and I. But she is the best thing that has ever happened to us also. So I would have to say Having kids. Kids are wonderful!!

Answer 6

I love not having kids. I could not even deal with having kids right now. It's so much better for me since I can go out with my friends when I want and me and my husbund can go on road trips without worring about the kids. You just have a lot more freedom.

Answer 7

It really depends on the married people. Like for instance, are they ready to have kids yet? Do they want to have kids?

Answer 8

having kids

Answer 9

I am in the 'not having kids' camp, my husband and I have focused on our relationship, we always wanted that to come first, and for us it really paid off. I love my brother's kids and spend time with them, but afterwards I am always happy I can walk away, get in my car, drive home and have a martini.

Answer 10

I agree with delawaregirl83 because if you are not ready than you are going to feel trap and frustrated. I you are ready than its going to be the best present ever. Everything you went trough your nine months of pregnancy and delivery gets forgotten when you hold your baby for the first time. Yes they do take up a lot of your time but when you hear them say there first words, there first crawl, and there first step you get all happy. My baby is the most precious gift I ever got. She brightens up my day every morning I see her especially when she needs me.