do men just hang out with women and listen to their problems without more going on?

Question

women are drawn to my husband and they talk to him about their problems with their relationships. he says there is nothing for me to worry about but i feel that there is more to the situations. some of these women say things like i love you and call his cell phone or sends text mgs. i'm i reading too much into this

Answer 1

NO you are not, I do believe that there are men out there who can maintain a strictly platonic relationship. But in your case getting calls on the cell and messages saying "I love you" is crossing the line. He is so busy dealing with their problems with their relationship that he is causing one of his own. I do not want to accuse him of doing anything, or of being unfaithful but you need to really sit down and talk to him. If he is reluctant or he dances around the topic then I think that there is really something wrong. But I would feel the same as you do if my husband were getting messages from other women saying I love you.

Answer 2

Well I really dont know what to tell you. The same thing happen to me. All the girls that will call him where girls he dated in the past. There was one particular one that will call can text message him all the time and most of the time he would not tell me. I got mad and started getting into a big figth but what helped me the most was one that I was pregnat and two his parents did not want there gradkids jumping around from one family to another. His parents love me and help me out a lot. I told him if he ever cheated on me is because he does not love me or our daughter so he would never see us again. He said he was not cheating and I believed him. I made see that what he was doing was wrong and how will he feel if I was doing the same thing he thought about it and he told her to stop calling because it was not right and I swear to God she has not called him because I check his phone all the time. If making him realize what he is doing is wrong I would hire a privite ditective to make sure. Dont think you are making to much of it because what he is doing is wrong. He should not care about those other women he should just worry and care about you because you are his wife not them. Let him know if he was not ready to get maried than why did he do it. Let him know how it makes you feel and that he is putting them before you and that is not right because you are his wife and he would like it if you were like that.

Answer 3

I wouldn't be happy if a woman was telling my husband that she loved him on the phone and i wouldn't be happy if they were texting him. I think you have to really find out what is going on. It is hard to deal with something like this and i feel for you because i would be going out of my mind with all these questions in my head..

Answer 4

The issues that surround a man and woman in a marriage are really sacred that if you find one talking about it out of marriage then these are discontented persons. If your husband is being aproached to sort out search issues by only women then I believe you have a reason to worry. main issue should be how did you meet him? was it the same way?

Answer 5

a lot of women are drawn to my husband, too. the good thing is that every one of them have respect enough respect for me to not step over the line, like calling his job and trying to see him when i don't know about it. i have good relationships with them, too. my husband is just a really great listener, he doesn't judge and he gives great advice. as long as you know about this, and he isn't being sneaky, i don't think you have anything to worry about. however, the "i love you" s are a bit much.

Answer 6

It depends, if you know these women and they are friends with you too, it might just be friendship. But if you don't know them and he keeps them and the conversations secret, then you might want to investigate further. Women do the same to my husband, the last one, who talked to him about all her "Marriage Problems" called him all the time and ended up trying to sleep with him. Good Luck

Answer 7

I would be suspicious.

I'm a decent guy and all. However, I don't think I could be that available for a lady without some type of attraction to the person.

Answer 8

If they're telling him they love him, and calling/texting him - he needs to stop hanging out with them. It is up to him to stop it, because those women don't care about you, he is supposed to.

Answer 9

I don't think you are reading to much into it.Ask him how he would feel if the shoe was on the foot

Answer 10

hell no. there's more too it. investigate it a little. He might be giving more than just advice if you know what i mean. trust me . i 've been ther done that . i'm a man.