2006-06-30 04:03:40 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Is there a reason your husband does not want you around your friend? My guess is either she is single or noticablly flirty. If the reason falls somewhere around here he is afraid her behavior or lifestyle will rub off on you. Look you have to ask yourself who do you love more. In todays society we like to think we can have it all but the reality is we can't and if we try we end up losing some of what we are trying to hold onto. Unfortunately in todays society we treat marriage like it is a throw-away choice. Instead of marrying forever we marry for right now or until things get a little tough and then move on to someone else. As I told my daughter when faced with this situation, the only difference is she was not married but engaged. I asked her who did she think she could not live without. Her very best friend in the whole world, the person she had more fun with then anyone else, the friend she could confide in and tell anything and not be judged or the man she was in love with because it was obvious that was her choice because she had to choose. It was so hard for her but she gave up her friend, it was hard but her relationship is strong and she is happy it took awhile but she felt her love was her soul mate. Sit down with your husband & reasure him she will cause no problems that you just need her in your life, if he has valed reasons why he feels the way he does than I suggest you think seriously about your next move. Good Luck and I hope it works out, if you are deeply in love with your husband it will make your choice easier.
2006-06-30 04:26:15 · answer #1 · answered by joejo 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
First off I should point out the fact that I am the husband.Second the best friend my wife is talking about is a theif and a drug user.And the fact that she is a lesbian that is infactuaded with my wife.My wife is also a recovering addict.This so called best friend is also in her late fifties.These are all facts.I hope this puts more info so people can give better answers.I love my wife very much and dont want her to be influenced by this person as she has before and has gotten in trouble.Mybe sweety you should consider that you married me and at that point decided to love and respect me as I do you.I only wish you would see my facts and put yourself in my place.You are an adult and can make your own decisions.Love you!!!
2006-06-30 15:25:29 · answer #2 · answered by Day N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he given you a reason for this or has he just autocratically demanded that you don't see your friend anymore? How well does he know this person? Is he afraid that this person will be a bad influence on you. You need to let him know that you do have your own mind and if you are old enough to be married then you are old enough to know whether to get involved in a compromising activity or not. Also make sure he knows that he doesn't have to be jealous of this person (because you love him) and he doesn't have to be insecure about your relationship
2006-06-30 11:22:03 · answer #3 · answered by kalischild57 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First ask him what it is that he doesnt like. Second of all let him know that he isnt a parent of yours he is your HUSBAND. Everyone needs friends. Make sure you arent doing anything to make him feel unsecure. Like hanging out all night or not coming home or acting as if your single. Invite him out with you both a few times. Men need to feel secure. Otherwise if he is just trying to control you LOOSE HIM.
2006-06-30 11:18:26 · answer #4 · answered by sweeetkisses2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your friend single and trying to involve you in single activities like clubbing and such? When you are married you shouldn't want to act single. Usually in these situations, the husband feels fear...that you will find someone else, and that maybe this person is trying to push you into situations where your fidelity might be in question
2006-06-30 11:07:05 · answer #5 · answered by Sharon S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not own you and can only make rules like that for you if you let him. You didn't marry a DAD. This is serious, if he wants to control you like that, you should think about getting out! Bet your best friend told you the same thing!
2006-06-30 11:08:04 · answer #6 · answered by wishiwereatthebeach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, make your husband a best friend and then tell you don't have any illegal relation with your so called (name) best friend. He is simply a friend like his friends (male and female) are for him. And you too have to treat him accordingly. Do not hide any thing to him, what going between you and your friend and expect a change?????
2006-06-30 11:13:29 · answer #7 · answered by loveboy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has your friend done angthing to him or around him for him not to trust him.if so you need to listen to your hushand.when you got marriage you took an oath that says forsakes all others for as long as you live.Sit down with your husband and talk to him asking him what are his reasons and if he gave you his reason make sure that you work hard for him to trust you. you can make this work, also talk to your friend about your husband's feelings if they are are a true friend they respect that.Good Luck.
2006-06-30 11:17:37 · answer #8 · answered by omiatu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a person not his possession. Do not allow him to control you like that. Abusive people try to cut you off from friends and family so they can break you down. Speak up and tell him that you will choose your friends and if he doesn't like it, that's too damn bad. You may have to leave him if he makes your life a living hell.
2006-06-30 11:08:56 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he isn't your daddy....he is your husband...so therefore i would ask him why it bothers him so much....unless you 2 have done something that a married women should not do....if he doesn't have a reason....do what you want.....don't be controled and dictated in your marriage....tell him if he don't like it don't let the door hit him in his *** on the way out.
2006-06-30 11:08:38 · answer #10 · answered by sashadaisie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋