what should I do??

Question

I have told you about my situation and I met a guy and end up pregnant he lives 1,500 miles well he called last night and I answered and when I did he hung up so I called back and a girl answered his phone here he has played me and this other girl and I told her who I was and expecting to have his baby soon and she didn't believe me because she was on the phone and asked him he said It's some girl who wants to be with me he said! Then I told her check the phone number and see if my number is on his phone it was she told me there were dating and talking about starting to have a family, marriage I told her just RUN and get away I told her to tell him not to call me anymore. So when the baby's born should I call or act like I don't know who he is.HMMM..

Answer 1

its very tricky even though he has not treated you right you should still give him the option to see your baby!!! phone him and tell him if he wants to be a dad brilliant your child will respect you alot more if he oesnt at least it wont come back on you and you were fair i donot believe you should deny a father to see his son if he really wants to , if he does not want anything to do with your baby keep all letters and paper work sowhen your child asks why you have the evidence to support ya . good luck

Answer 2

Im sorry that your situation has turned out this way. I'd say to have the baby and not focus on him. Since he is the father, I'd do my part by keeping him informed on his child, unless he makes it clear that he isn't interested in the child. IF you can afford to take care of this child alone then do so and if he steps up to be a man, then that'd be great. No point in fighting for money if you don't need it. If you need his assistance then sue him for child support, whether he acknowledges paternity or not, a test can prove he and force him to be responsible, financially at the very least. Once again Im sorry he's being an a$$hole. Best of luck to you and your baby and I hope everything turns out great.

Answer 3

I am a man and will tell you that this guy is an absolute loser. He is the type of guy that gives us all a bad name, and I am sorry to hear of your plight. You need to be fully aware that he has no respect for you, and unfortunately you are only a notch on his belt. Please do not continue this relationship. Have your baby and raise that baby to the best of your abilities. You might want to think about asking your parents if they would allow you to move back in with them for a while, if your family is a strong family unit. Suggest to your father that he was a strong male role model for you, and you would be honored if he could also be that same strong role model to your child. This will serve to butter him up and it will also tell him that he did a good job with his role in your life. Your child will really need a male role model, and the bio father is not a good role model. He will only teach your child in his actions that the bad behavior that he is demonstrating to you is acceptable, and it is not. This guy does not respect you, and never will. He has already proved to you that he is not trustworthy. Please don't give him another chance, because he will only abuse that chance.

Answer 4

I wouldn't deny him the right to see his child......but I dated this girl who's "baby's daddy" was in and out of his girl's life.....she accepted partial custody agreement even though he did nothing for either of them....it turns out he claimed his girl on his taxes from 3000 miles away so she couldn't......he spent the money on his "ho's" and she ended up having to owe money because she had applied for student loans and child care with her as a dependant all year....
So let him see the baby if you want.....but get full custody...don't put his name on the birth certificate.....and be careful what you do....My biological father was there for the first two years of my life and then went on the road with Jimmy Buffet....it would have been less painful to never know him.......I'm sorry about your situation.....

Answer 5

You should contact your state, name him as the father and make sure you get child support. The child has the right to know his/her father. Unfortuantely, (or maybe fortunately for you) it sounds like the guy is not interested in being a part of his kids life (makes me wonder how many others he may have). Be civil to him do not ever bad mouth him to the child. DO NOT get back together with him; a kid is not a good basis for a relationship.

Answer 6

If you are sure that the baby is his, he is responsible for paying you child support. When the baby is born you can call and tell him that!

DO NOT let him be a deadbeat dad...his actions have consequences and he needs to help you support this child. If he refuses, you can get his wages garnished.

Just remember that he is a liar and a cheat and do not get romantically involved with him again.

Good luck with everything!!!

Answer 7

what about you????? R U N!!!!!! if he is such a baby that he cant stand up to another female and say heck yeah she is carrying my child and thats that, well then sweetie, damn him and find a man who will love you and that baby you are carrying, just because he fathered your child doesnt give him automatic rights to be the daddy, that is a title that is earned, anyone can make a baby as you have found out, but only a daddy stay to teach the baby how to grow up and also become a daddy, not just a mna....we have too many men these days and not near enough daddies.....sad huh???? those poor children who are left to wonder what they did that makes daddy not care.....girl go out forget him and get yourself a REAL MAN!!!!!

Answer 8

You should give him all the info you know about the baby. Like due date...etc. Ask him if he wants to be a part of the childs life. Be sure to go after child support. The child is his even if he chooses not to be involved in it's life.

Answer 9

I think he's only using you to make his present girlfriend jealous. Don't fall into his games. Sounds like he needs to 'grow up'. It may be hard for you to forget him(or it may not be), but you should change your phone number and move on with your life. The baby deserves someone that will be there and care for him/her. By moving on with your life, you'll increase the chance for that. Good luck. I wish you the best :)

Answer 10

You should not call him at all, Ya he is the dad but you can't force him to be there, If you really try, you can do it all yourself. I think when he is ready he will came around, but don't bet on it. And what ever you do, Don't take it out on the baby, when the baby is born. Good luck to you and your baby......