How will I know if the love is worth staying or is the love just blinding me from the truth
2006-06-30 03:38:25 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For me there was three things that I considered:
1) Trust. Do you still trust the other person. Trust what they say, trust what they do, and trust them with your soul.
2) Loyalty. Are they truly loyal to you and your needs. Or do they not care about being loyal to what you believe.
3) Love. Are you truly in love with them. Can't be without them. Look forward to time with them. Are they in love with you. They show affection, passion, compassion for you and your needs.
If you are okay with those three. Work on it. If those things are gone, move on.
2006-06-30 11:37:53 · answer #1 · answered by wn_all 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what your differences are. If you want kids and he doesnt, marriage, or general goals for the long term it wouldn't be worth to just stick it out. If your differences are small or can be negotiated, then try it.
My boyfriend and I have alot of things in common, but of course we have our differences. I've learned to accept his, unsure totally of how he feels at times. I do know that I care about him deeply and we are close friends too. I can't imagine him NOT in my life and if we ever disagreed to the point where I could, then it would be time to break it off completely.
That's probably the question you should ask yourself: How would I feel if I never saw or heard from him again? or: Would I have regrets for leaving him?
Hope it helps... No two people are ever the same.
You are unique, just like everyone else is!!!
2006-06-30 10:46:38 · answer #2 · answered by Scarlett 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More times than often if you have to ask that question then it is time for you to move on. A lot of people say that love is enough and it is not. Before you knew that you loved him there were qualities about him that made you love him. Does he still have those qualities are they still active in your relationship? Keep in mind that nothing in life stays the same and if your relationship has taken a turn for the worse and you are having a hard time turning it around, then hey it might be time to leave. I do not have enough information to give you more in depth advice but love is not always enough.
2006-06-30 10:46:04 · answer #3 · answered by Nicole C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough...for some some people differences attract, and for others it repels. Bottom line though is that a relationship has to be 50-50. If the other person is not putting forth as much effort as you are into the relationship it will never make it...just move on and find someone who will.
The longer you wait the more heartache it will cause.
2006-06-30 10:47:12 · answer #4 · answered by gdesigner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you feel that you cant deal with the differences between each other, then there is no point of trying. Cause in a relationship you have to give and take.
2006-06-30 10:49:18 · answer #5 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every couple has problems and then the issue of loving and being in love being two different things.
ask yourself if the differences can be agreed on and if its worth it.
then sit down and have a long heart to heart and decide mutually
2006-06-30 10:45:40 · answer #6 · answered by lodeemae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the love is still there, ask yourself this: "is it worth fighting for?" If so, then work through your differences....you may uncover more things in common in the process....Good Luck!!
2006-06-30 10:42:16 · answer #7 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu can try not seeing eacj other for a set amount of time and then see if you still want to pursue the relationship
2006-06-30 14:47:04 · answer #8 · answered by Carp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am in the same boat. everybody i know is telling me to run not walk out of my relationshipo. but love does blind.
2006-06-30 15:13:51 · answer #9 · answered by pinched 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you start questioning it! There are no questions in love!
2006-06-30 10:47:35 · answer #10 · answered by Princesses Pound Puppy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋