Should I tell her and ask her out? or....keep it a secret and keep having sexual fantasies about her?
2006-06-30 03:38:24 · 46 answers · asked by Child'sPlay 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You are still young, you may not know who you are attracted too an this age. Keep a open mind about your sexuality. This may change in the future.
2006-07-11 08:26:28 · answer #1 · answered by Shelly53 2 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Hey, when i was 9 i had the same fantasies as you! I actually just ended up asking the girl and later on we ended up closer. Dont think that it is weird to have sexual fantasies about other girls. Its just a way of finding out what you like and what you dont like. I think you should go for it, you have nothing to lose. And by the way you are definately not too young!
2006-06-30 05:21:45 · answer #2 · answered by gurl20 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a recognized psychological phenomenon that girls of your age have fantasies and crushes on other girls. Most grow out of it, and some become lesbians. Either way, I'd advise to wait a couple of years by which time you'll be sure of your sexual orientation.
I had crushes on girls when young, and I'm glad I did nothing about it, and kept good friendships instead. Now I'd say I'm 99% heterosexual (Keeping 1% seems to really excite my other half - Men huh?).
My Mother went to an all girls school, where crushes between girls was expected. Psychologically you could say that they used this exploration of feelings (which was 'safe' because it would never really go anywhere) to ready themselves for adult relationships.
I hope this helps!
2006-07-10 10:44:13 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do your classmates already know that you like girls? If it is not something that you hide, then by all means ask her out. On the other hand, if you have been keeping this a secret and she has no feelings for you, you are very likely to have your secret exposed. Girls your age can be mean when they want to. Another issue would be your parents finding out. If this gets around school and you don't want it too, it's very likely it will get to your parents as well.
2006-06-30 03:50:28 · answer #4 · answered by Lubers25 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mother or an aunt about it. Dont think your a lezbian because you have an attraction to another girl. Try meeting a guy I'm sure you will be ok. If you are going out at 14 thats a problem in its self. And some of the people that have aswered you question shouldn't be giving advice.
2006-06-30 03:55:18 · answer #5 · answered by The Joker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell the girl. Take her aside some day or ask for her number and call her. Maybe take her out for lunch, then let her know. Even if she doesn't have the same feeling as you; at least you can get it out there, and not have to keep it inside you. Whatever happens happens and everything happens for a reason; so if things don't work out, the world isn't going to end. You never know what might happen, you should take a chance <3
Good luck, sweets.
2006-06-30 03:41:12 · answer #6 · answered by hollajovana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People will talk. Trust me. Everyone freaked out when I dated my first and only girlfriend. People are so quick to judge. It turns out that I just wanted to be like everyone eles that I was hanging out with at the time . anyways, make sure that she feels the same way too. Try to keep it a secret until you are out of highschool. First make sure that you really are attracted to females. Maybe you just think that she is the greatest person ever and you just really care about her.
2006-07-06 06:47:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even as young as 14 you know that you're attracted to females. You're not only fantasing but you're a lesbian.....If you ask this other girl out you may be officially out of the closet.
2006-07-09 01:31:21 · answer #8 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally sweetheart, you may just be going through a stage. Don't go out and do something on a whim. ARe you sure that she feels the same way? I think that you should wait until you're a bit older to decide something like this. You probably don't even know your body like you want to know it so just chill out and make sure that this is what yo really want to do.
2006-06-30 04:08:45 · answer #9 · answered by ~The baby's finally here~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think she is attracted to you?
How acceptable is homosexuality in your school? If others know you are a lesbian, will your life be hell or are there others who don't think it's a big deal?
I don't know how to answer your question. But you might want to talk to a school counselor who can help you work through the pros and cons, and who can support you if things go bad.
2006-06-30 03:42:08 · answer #10 · answered by mountainmom1973 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋