I have been divorced for almost a year from my husband. He was physically abusive, he was sleeping around on me, and was constantly drunk. My pastor agreed that these were grounds for a divorce and that I was not sinning. He also discussed remarriage. I am only 25 and have two little kids.
Recently I began dating. I have met a WONDERFUL man and he is meshing well with my family. He is also divorced, he wife was sleeping around on him. He is 35.
We have talked about marriage, but we are working together to make sure that this is the best for both of us. We are very passionate towards each other, we love each other very much. Is it a sin to have sex out of marriage if you are getting RE-married? I was a virgin with my husband, but I am not sure what the rules are once your divorced. Any wisdom? Thank you so much. God Bless you all!
2006-06-30 03:30:44 · 23 answers · asked by davidswiphey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sex outside of marriage is a sin. Just wait.
2006-06-30 03:32:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want the same thing to happen to you both again, sure, sleep together. If he loves you and you love him you both as Christians will honor God with your minds and bodies until your wedding night. First and formost I hope you are getting premarital counseling, because he may seem wonderful, but there was a reason he got divorced....why did his wife feel she had to cheat on him? Not that its ever right but there's usually some sort of abuse going on whether its emotional or verbal or physical and I'm sorry but Mister Wonderful there isn't going to tell you up front what his flaws are. Not only that but you have only been divorced for ALMOST a year, and probably have your own share of problems. As you found out from experience marriage is hard, probably the hardest thing you'll ever do next to raising your children. Nobody ever promised it to be a walk in the park, you both have to be sure you are going to be commited to eachother through whatever life throws your way. Although its popular today to have 3-4 divorces and marriages in your lifetime, it just proves that the person isn't mature enough emotionally or ready to deal with what life throws their way. Don't take any vows again before you are really sure that this is what God's plan is for your life. God should be your focus right now, and then your children...not some man pressuring you into having premarital sex because of your "passions". Think about it...no, pray about it.
2006-06-30 10:44:03 · answer #2 · answered by dixi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah Sweetie, In the eyes of the lord it is a sin. I'm not saying that I'm a angel lol. But I understand what you are going through.Get married with this new wonderful person in your life, cuz you don't want to feel guilty and sin... after all if his really love you, he can wait when the big day comes for the both of you :)
2006-06-30 11:11:32 · answer #3 · answered by myheartotero86 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your religious beliefs. Some people feel that if they are getting married to the person than it is not a sin, Others feel any sexual act outside of marriage is a sin, and then to take it a step further. Some people believe even to kiss a man out of marriage is a sin. It's all in what you believe.
2006-06-30 10:36:34 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♥Soon to Be Mrs.F♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is your definition of sin? If you have a religious affiliation and believe what the Bible says, then any sex outside of marriage is sin. It would be fornication, not adultery. Waiting would give the two of you time to know each better. Learn his views on child rearing. Do you share the same religious beliefs? etc.
2006-06-30 10:40:36 · answer #5 · answered by numberfive 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is OK. Not a sin. in the final verse of the chapter of life in the gospel of living, it is decreed, DO NOT listen to a'sshole preachers and go ahead and live life to the best and kindest of your knowledge, and if are not sure, u can ask around, but eventually, as the great God daddy has created humans to be self aware and able to think of good shite, they should have no problems making good the super Godly requirements...
ie. for bloody goodness sake, do you need a written confirmation that you should lead your life this way or that, if so why the heck did God give u a brain for huh?
2006-06-30 10:37:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I am a Christian. You are not a virgin anymore. You have two kids. In the Bible it says you are not supposed to have sex out of wedlock. That means until you are married I assume. I'm not sure what I would do if I were you. I feel to have sex with someone, you should love them. I think it would be sinning before you are married, but I think I would any way. Just my opinion.
2006-06-30 10:35:52 · answer #7 · answered by noseygirl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
By the book, Bible, I would think same standard apply whether you have been married or not...I understand the temptation, so against my own judgment, I must suggest you refrain from sex until your married, in order to feel your marriage is blessed...I feel any diversion from that will never set well with you...good luck..
2006-06-30 10:48:16 · answer #8 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From a religious POV it's a sin. If your faith is more important to you than your own happiness then don't sleep with him. If you love him you should make love to him. You can't run from love and passion because it's always going to catch up with you. It's going to happen so you may as well take control of how and when it happens. Enjoy your life and your love.
2006-06-30 10:42:49 · answer #9 · answered by zmebme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I dont think so. You are out of marriage and single at the moment. You have fallen in love with a man and both of you are serioius about getting married. At this point, it's good to establish physical compatibility and it will reaffirm your love and faith in each other. Go for it. Best of luck.
2006-06-30 10:50:25 · answer #10 · answered by exoticncurious 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋