My best friends boyfriend told her " if youlove me you'll sleep with me but if you don't I guess we can't be together" and she did it because she didn't want to lose him and now she is pregnant! He left her as soon as he found out. Now she's crying 24/7. Should I go kick his a$$. Ive done it before should I do it again?
2006-06-30 03:19:46 · 27 answers · asked by Carrie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You want to kick his butt, help her do it financially. Make sure she makes him take FULL financial responsibility for the baby he has created.
Your emphasis should be on supporting your friend who, though she made a horrible and irresponsible mistake, is only human and will need the support of everyone she can get it from.
Karma will come back to buite this guy in the butt one day. I truly believe we all get done to us what we do to others in one way or another. Support her, and make sure she does what she needs to get the financial support she needs, and the baby deserves from him.
Good luck
2006-06-30 03:26:09 · answer #1 · answered by Raistliin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try not to get upset about what I'm about to say. I'm only trying to help. Now, I know your friend has a mind of her own. She could have just as easily told him to drop dead and not had sex with him. I know she's smarter than that. However, I know we all make mistakes. Her boyfriend is not the only one at fault although he does hold most of the blame. Your friend should have realized that if he was going to give her an ultimatum like that, then he didn't love her in the first place and only wanted sex, therefore not being worth her time or love. My advice to you is to stop trying to protect your friend. she's going to have to handle this issue on her own for once. From the way you talk about her, it seems as if you are acting as an overprotective sibling, rather than a friend. Don't go try to kick his a$$. Let him run. And if you really want to be her friend, the best thing you could do now, is to NOT let her have an abortion. Don't let you friend make the mistake of killing her own child and then have to live with that guilt for the rest of her life. It's not worth it. However, once she has the baby, I would advise her to immediatly take him to court and file for child support. He will have to find a way to pay the money every month and if he doesn't, he will be taken to jail. Believe me, that is a much more fitting punishment for what he did than you going to cause physical harm to him. I wish you and especially your friend the best of luck.
2006-06-30 03:33:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I would. That is so wrong, I mean, he's the one who convinced her to do it in the first place! That's why I wish I would have waited for my fiance, instead of having sex at 14. I obviously didn't end up with that guy either, or any of the other guys I was with, which I regret now and wish I would have realized then. I ended up pregnant at 15, but had an abortion. Guys at that age are so NOT WORTH IT. I don't think you should kick his ***, but he'll get his one way or another. What goes around comes around, and whether it has anything to do with this situation or another, he'll get his.
2006-06-30 03:34:07 · answer #3 · answered by ac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what good will it do.will it change the situation. even though he is a complete asshole,she still fell 4 it.like I always tell my daughters is he presures u 2 have sex then he is not going 2 stick around very long either way since he is only in it for the sex and not the person.now she has 2 deside how 2 raise her child n how she is going 2 support this child.that should be ur number 1 concern in helping ur friend.
2006-06-30 03:25:40 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun hes worthless he isnt your concern but your friend really needs you right she is in a posotion most girls end up in when the old if you love me line is used..Just be there for apperantly she means alot to you so be there and stand beside her let her know you will be there for her no matter what as for the dead be jack*** if he trys to come back around any time in the future tell her to send him on his way or else there will be a second baby and he'll hit the bricks again..Right now her heart is broken and she needs someone who loves her and cares about her...Good Luck to you and your friend and help her calm down it isnt healthy for the baby for her to be so upset and stressed...
2006-06-30 03:43:47 · answer #5 · answered by shell b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand you wanting to take up for your friend. But, the best thing you can do right now is be there for her. Encourage her to tell her parents and listen as much as she needs to talk. He is not an issue anymore. I hate to say this but, he did not make her do it. Yes he does deserve to get his a__ kicked but, let someone else handle that no matter how bad he deserves it.
2006-06-30 03:24:05 · answer #6 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Console her telling that this is a common mistake people understand but still forced to do in reality by circumstances. Kicking anyone is not a solution; help her, save her - that's is what you should do now.
2006-06-30 03:28:29 · answer #7 · answered by Jinesh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the fu*king jerk d*ck to court. Yeah, guys like that should get his d*ck chopped off! Do not let him go easy. Talk to the boy's and the girl's parents as well. It is good to have a friend like you who cares!
2006-06-30 03:35:30 · answer #8 · answered by Inquirer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no don't kick his butt i do agree with you you should but don't your friend should have known better but now that this has already happpend she is going to have to stop crying and take of herself be there for her if you can and tell her to get child support from his sorry no good @^%
2006-06-30 03:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by mdg1866@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No help your friend find a good lawyer because she is going to need child support!
2006-06-30 03:21:58 · answer #10 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋