Don't get me wrong, this girl is one of my closest friends, but I am sick of hearing how she hates herself and she's such a horrible person for cheating. Well duh! I know she has low self-esteem and confidence issues so the cheating--along with a lot of other things she does--is for attention, but it still doesn't make it right.
2006-06-30 03:17:50 · 5 answers · asked by lifelover581 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Stop giving her attention on the subject. It's not your job to be her counsellor, it's your job to be her friend. Be her friend by sugguesting she see a licensed counsellor for her issues. After that discussion, refuse to further discuss her relationship. If she brings it up, comment perhaps something like "Oh, your counsellor should be able to help you discuss that."
2006-06-30 03:21:38 · answer #1 · answered by sovereign_carrie 5 · 10⤊ 2⤋
You friend needs to know, what she does to others will come back to her. Might be days, weeks, months, and years. But it will come back and bite her in the butt. Then if she falls for a guy, and marriage is in the works.
Someone could tell him, what she had done to others. Knowing she had cheated on other guys, he might break up with her. Then the relationship will fall, and she going to wonder what when wrong.
As a friend, you can do all you can do. To a certain point. If you try to help her out, talk to her about her problems or trouble she cause. Still if it don't phase her one bit. Then tell her, that you are not going to help her no more.
You will get tired of it sooner or later. When she calls you, or when you see her in person again. Tell her, if thats all she going to do. Then you don't won't her around till she stops. Don't call or come over.
That you are tired of playing Dr. Phil, and she can go and dump her troyubles on someone else. Or she can get some therpy sessions.
2006-06-30 03:47:43 · answer #2 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she hates herself for cheating then she needs to quit.....and she will definately get attention when her bf finds out
2006-06-30 03:23:12 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you knw that she knws it's wrong..and tell her to stop it...if she's not happy with her boyfriend then let her let go of him...rather than hurting him in the end...ask her if she really loves her bf..suggest to her that if she still does, confess to him what she did..before it's too late and he hears it from someone else..if the guy really loves her..he would forgive her although it hurts him really bad...and let her make up for what she's done to her bf...
2006-06-30 03:36:12 · answer #4 · answered by katie_kinz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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You have to really shout this in her face, preferably generating little bits of spittle.
Then apologise half heartedly.
Then go home and have your favourite ice cream.
Now who's laughing?
2006-06-30 03:21:21 · answer #5 · answered by Scotty Wrotem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋