She is a college student doing a summer internship at an insurance hq. She has a closet and dresser full of clothes. Her wardrobe is vintage and eclectic, in other words, she buys at thrift shops or at mall shops & boutiques on a whim. She cuts her own hair and lets it airdry giving her a Kramer like style. She is very artistic and has paint on some of her jeans, yet she refuses to get rid of them. Today, she got mad at me for telling her to put on a pair of clean jeans for dress-down day. She is bright, bohemian and sociable but gives a sloppy first impression. She and I always lock horns on this. She is top-heavy and has a hard time finding well-fitting clothes. I think she needs a neater style for work or interviews. I am willing to shop with her but we always end up arguing. I know she is old enough to make her own choices and this is probably the least of college rebellion. I need assistance in helping her find a neat, professional look that allows for her individuality.
2006-06-30 03:12:45 · 6 answers · asked by Maria C 2 in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
she's an adult, so it's going to be hard to make her change her mind. You pretty much have no control over her since she's over 18 now.
I've learned this the hard way, too-- you can't change people until they're ready to change.
For now, maybe you guys can agree on a piece or two that she can incorporate into her wardrobe. Tell her you will go on a shopping spree with her and will buy EVERYTHING if she just agrees on wearing a few neater, more acceptable items. As far as being top heavy, I'm not sure what the rest of her measurements are, but Lane Bryant has some VERY stylish, sexy, cute clothes for plus sizes.
Try not to be too forceful or she won't listen. Just be accepting of who she is, but just tell her it'd be nice to see her mix up her wardrobe every now and then. Be nice about it, and maybe she'll come around.
good luck!
2006-06-30 03:30:18 · answer #1 · answered by creativestarwish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hehe, bright, Bohemian spirits never take well to conformity. :) For things like a dress-down day at school, I think it would be best for you to just shake your head and sigh. It may not be your style, but it's hers- let her show it! If you worried about the first impression she makes in more professional or formal-type settings, that's when you just have to sit down with her and try to explain why painted jeans may not be the best idea. Or, try buying her clothes for her birthday or Christmas that are more professional or clean-looking, and something that could show of a little of her personality, like a scarf or brooch.
If she still doesn't listen and tries tromping off to a few job interviews in less-than-business attire...I'm afraid there isn't much else to be done. She'll discover after the first few rejections that it's probably a good idea to listen to mom's advice. :) It may be hard, but sometimes you just have to sit back and let us figure out how to do things by ourselves.
2006-06-30 03:22:38 · answer #2 · answered by Robin J. Sky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
force her and let her understand why you are forcing her to be a neat individual well as a matter of fact she is going to be an adult soon enough and must learn to look pleasant so try buying her clothes thats like the taste of her unique style but look pleasant how about a nice message printed fitting shirt and a pair of stylish jean dont make look plain make her look pleasant by making her stand out proud and unique. and about that attitude my mom would ground for weeks geez imagine that!
2006-06-30 03:25:30 · answer #3 · answered by Natet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 19 i didnt stay at residing house so my mom had no administration over my existence. yet now im back residing house and im 21 and my mom nonetheless has user-friendly regulations and that i appreciate them because of the fact i do stay in her residing house and she or he does help me. If she doesnt like the way her mom is treating her she needs to sit down down and function a extreme communique along with her mom or if its demanding to have a communique along with her then she ought to possibly get her a card and write her a letter. yet merely dont make all of it damaging upload what she does good and what you savor her for.
2016-12-08 14:15:53 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's 19. She's legally an adult. She'll dress as she will and for you to try and force her to change is only going to cause a rift.
2006-06-30 03:16:47 · answer #5 · answered by sovereign_carrie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here's the website for the show "Ambush Makeover"
http://www.stylenetwork.com/ssms-site/style.do?showId=6220
As far as the attitude adjustment....that's your job as a parent
2006-06-30 03:16:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋