My husband is only home on wkends. He thinks I should have sex with him all wkend long. I miss him when he's gone.. but if I'm not in the mood he gets mad. Am I suppose to give it up even if I'm not in the mood?
2006-06-30 03:09:39 · 17 answers · asked by West Virginia Gal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, if you are not in the mood, you are not in the mood! You have control over your body. If you "just give it up" how do you feel about yourself? Not good, I bet! Talk to your husband, let him know how it makes you feel, I hope he can understand, I've been through this myself. You can also try things to "get in the mood", sexy clothes, new hairstyle, even a new sent, all of this makes you feel good about yourself and when you feel good about yourself, you are more likely to be in the mood! Good Luck!
2006-06-30 03:20:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Don't force your self into something you don't wanna do. Don't go pleasing him, while you are hurting inside. I understand, if he be gone for weeks on end. But since he comes home every weekend. Then he should not have it all the time.
You are not a machine, you can't recharge yourself and get at it again. You have the same rights as he does. It's your body, you treat it the way you seem fit. Even if you are married, no mean no. Plainly tell him, you don't want sex right now. If he gets mad, well he will get over it sooner or later.
Let him have his fits, I bet he won't like it if the tables were turn around. He be saying the same thing as you are . Married, single or whatever. You don't have to force yourself to give it up. You are not a slave, and you are his wife. He needs to open his eyes up, and see what he is doing is hurting you.
Don't do nothing, you feel is not right. If he wants sex every weekend that rolls around, then he go get him a Stepford wive.
2006-06-30 03:28:59 · answer #2 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live in West Virginia too. My husband works away all week and is only home on the weekends too. I am so glad not to be the only one. I felt the same way for a while. I have two kids and they tire you out. When he gets home I just wanted a break and I used to fall asleep before we could do anything. He would act mad and aggravate me to death to give him some. I would finally give in so he would shut up. I look at it in a different way now. I realize that if something would happen to him it would crush my world. We don't spend enough quality time together as it is and I am not wasting on second of it when he is home. I am happy to spend time with and please my man when we get a chance now and we are both much happier. Just try looking at it in a different way. If he is wanting it from you all weekend that means he's not cheating on you and getting it somewhere else all week right? That's how I feel about it. Try being more romantic and adding spice to it to see if you want him more. Good luck!
2006-06-30 03:27:31 · answer #3 · answered by noseygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you're not wrong, but I'm a man and If I were in his situation, then yes I would want sex all weekend being that we are married and your supposed to be the only woman in my life that I can have sex with. There are so many women/men who don't fulfill their duties but wonder why their mates are driven to cheat. Before you get married, you know whether or not you have a freak like me who wants to have sex all of the time. But women you do change when you get married with the " not now I'm not ready BS."
But no you're not wrong, but all I can say from experience is if you keep your man happy and drained then their is no room for cheating. If he doesn't get it from you, then there will be some young lady that will make him happy. (Man's point of view)
2006-06-30 03:26:54 · answer #4 · answered by BigTyme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would I really took my husband for granted never thought that not having regualr sex with him would ever lead him to stray right now I am scared he might be cheating. After all he is only home on the weekends, make the best of it
2006-06-30 03:15:01 · answer #5 · answered by tryme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not a bad wife. But did you know he would only be home on weekends when you got married? Obviously you can't spend the whole time in bed, compromise and do other things together that meet your needs too. Talk it out.
2006-06-30 03:17:15 · answer #6 · answered by teamkimme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a bad wife. **Do you hear me...You are NOT a bad wife!**
You are a human being that deserves respect. You are not "SUPPOSED" to do anything if you really don't want to. If he's telling you that, then he's a selfish sh*thead.
Marriage is about compromises for BOTH individuals. Seems you understand this quite well but he doesn't. He needs to learn some respect for you before he starts losing your respect.
2006-06-30 03:22:53 · answer #7 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you do love him and you do want him, but sex is not the key. Me myself, I get off just holding my mans hand. We may go weeks without sex, but its only because sex is not what makes a true relationship. Maybe he thinks that sex is the only way to keep you and he is scared of losing you. I Think its time to sit down with him and have a true heart to heart.
2006-06-30 03:27:50 · answer #8 · answered by montana d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take Ur time and let him be slow to arouse Ur emotions, do not shred his dreams and desires, cauz if not there are alot of other girls who will open there legs (weak point of the scociety) , yeah if U R sick (ill) then he should understand.
2006-06-30 03:21:23 · answer #9 · answered by tariq o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try harder to get urself in the mood. It might save ur marriage. Atleast he wants it from u and only u!!!
2006-06-30 03:17:53 · answer #10 · answered by Julie G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋