My boyfriend and I found out that I was pregnant 3 weeks ago. Well, last Friday, I started bleeding and I had a miscarriage. Yesterday, I found out that I was carrying twins and that I still had a baby inside of me. My boyfriend has been so mad at me this week and says he wants a break. What the hell kinda timing is this? Should I just give him the break?
2006-06-30 03:09:12 · 16 answers · asked by Laurissa DLP 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Not only does he want a break, he just wants Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. A weekend break??!!
2006-06-30 03:15:23 · update #1
A closed break (meaning no one sleeps with anyone else, or kisses....) is ok, itll give him a chance to put his thoughts together, and be ready to become daddy. He should still let you know where he'll be staying and make sure he checks in with you at least everyday so you know hes still thinking of you-after all thats what a break is all about-and not about partying it with his buddies without his girl for a few days. A longer break is never good. Besides how can being apart bring you closer together?
2006-06-30 03:39:57 · answer #1 · answered by flyer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Watch out he may have something else in mind if he only wants it over the weekend. He needs to know that you need his love and support now more than ever and that if he is willing to leave you while your pregnant then he's a bastard. How did he feel about the pregnancy in the first place? Be very careful you need not to stress alot right now so DO NOT let that *** hole get you worked up. He doesn't need a break he needs to grow up. You need to tell him that if he cannot take being with you now then what the hell is he going to do when the baby comes and there is more added stress? I hate when men act ignorant! Hold your head up because you will be okay with or without him. If you do not want him to leave try and talk it out with him and find out what is really driving him to act the way he is. If you don't mind him leaving let him go and when he tries to come back make it on your terms. You are carrying his child and deserve to be treated with love and respect, you need to get what you deserve. Good Luck!!!!
2006-06-30 11:47:53 · answer #2 · answered by Mommy2Be 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you, and how long have you two been together?
Dont' try to force him to stay with you
If he's thinking that you're lying to him or playing him for a fool...if that's the case, invite him to your doctor's appointments so that he can be involved in the pregnancy & not have the worries about being lied to.
Or, it could be that he's just completely overwhelmed by the events of the past month. I'm sure there've been times that you'd like to walk away from the whole experience & take some time alone to work things out. That could be what he's going through
2006-06-30 10:19:47 · answer #3 · answered by aspie_pride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea cause he's probably scared by the responsiblity of being a dad and need sometime to think. my boyfriend and i argued and broke up every two weeks in the beginning of our pregnancy cause the realization of us creating a child scared us both. my boyfriendd pulled dat weekend breakup thing too, but i explained to him that just because im pregnant doesnt mean ur stuck with me and regardless if ur here or not im goin to do what i have to do for this baby with or without u. and that makes a guy think long and hard about a life without his baby's meaning the both of u. but over time our relationship has gotten so much better and he's not scared no more. so give him his space, its not so he can be wit other girls or anything like that, men need to deal with things in their own way there not emotional creatures like us! good luck
o and keep pressing the fact that stress is not good for u, it works!
2006-06-30 10:26:27 · answer #4 · answered by foxzie006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, let me say I am sorry for your loss. Second...he is a jerk! What happens when you have this baby in a few months, is going to need another break??? You cant depend on a guy like that. And is that the kind of lesson you want to teach your child? I am sorry you are going thru this, but it would be best if you let him go permanently.
2006-06-30 10:19:18 · answer #5 · answered by Jenn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that. Let him cool off for a week. Then talk about the relationship. Too much emotion right now.
2006-06-30 10:12:53 · answer #6 · answered by DesignR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is he mad?....you went through all the pain and its a blessing you still have a baby right now....does he not want children is that why he was mad?.....you need to talk to him seriously about what is going on inside his head and then if he is not on your level and you want to have the baby..you need to drop him like its hot because he is not boyfriend/father material......
he's selfish. inconsiderate, and uncaring
can you say..NEXT!
2006-06-30 11:03:03 · answer #7 · answered by outspokenone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just wants a week end brake so he can go hump some other girl give him the boot
if you found out you gave him the brake and he humped another girl its your fault you were on a brake
stds and hiv forget him
2006-06-30 11:44:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a jerk to me....now maybe next time you'll wait for a real commitment before doing something else so stupid.
2006-06-30 13:08:52 · answer #9 · answered by jachooz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that your commited to your relationship with him and if he wants to take a "break" you may not want him back.
2006-06-30 10:12:59 · answer #10 · answered by cirestan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋