Just Had Sex?

Question

i am a 14 year old male and just had sex with my gf, it's a strange feeling that i actually done it. Should i tell my parents about what i have been doing or just keep it to myself

Answer 1

I strongly suggest you talk to your parents. In fact, I'm surprised you asked this questions because most kids would be afraid to, so it takes some maturity to even consider it.

You should talk with them, so they have a chance to discuss with you birth control, disease prevention, and quite frankly, if they are smart about it, all the other possible consequences of having sex.

Even if you think you know it all, you probably don't. A quick read of questions on this site show how little many teens really know about sex. It would be better to listen and find out you might actually know it all, then to not listen and miss something important you didn't realize you didn't know or hadn't thought about.

Some of the things you may not have thought about yet include girls that will read more into it than you mean and who may become obssessively "in love" with you (and then you have to figure out how to let them down), AND how you may feel when you get dumped.

Sexual activity opens up a whole new world that includes a lot of areas where you can get into serious trouble that can impact your entire life. It is also easy to become so obsessed with the idea of sex, that you forget there are other pleasures to being a teen that maybe you are better off enjoying before you reach adulthood.

What teens often miss is that being a kid can be a lot more fun than being an adult, and that adulthood brings with it a lot of responsibilities that can really take the joy out of life (how often do you see your folks just goof off?).

So when you choose to engage in adult activities like sex, you bring with that choice additional responsibilities and risks that will mean giving up some of the more relaxed and lower risk fun of being just a boy.

I'm not in a position to tell you what to do, and I hope your folks are smart enough to recognize that they won't be able to control this choice for you, but that rather you need some good information and solid advice, so that IF you choose to be sexually active, you are at little risk of having your life ruined.

Answer 2

Well....I guess that would be up to you. If you are that close to your parents and think that they won't freak out then tell them. Who knows maybe they will educate you more on it. You can't expect them not to be dissappointed though. Sex is not something to take lightly...it's a big thing. If you feel that they will freak out on you then keep it to yourself but make sure you get the right education and make sure you don't use people for sex (which are called pigs) Sex is the most intimate action that gives you a great feeling not only physically, but mentally and soulfully and emotionally. It is not for spreading around to just anyone. I think that a lot of the people (not all) forgot about what sex is about. A lot of people (not all) use sex a physical toy and don't consider the other enjoyments that go with it. Make your decisions carefully and if you feel that you need to tell them then tell them, if you feel that you don't than don't.

Answer 3

I know half of you does not want to tell, but the other half is scared and worried and you're only 14, I've had sex once before and it was an amazing experience and I told a person in my family that wouldn' tell my mom because I just couldn't. If you can't tell your parents tell a trusted family member, i may have not told my mom, but I told someone and it made me feel better and they offered me advice that I carry with me now. But if you do tell someone try telling, your dad, uncle, or a male who can offer you advice. Other than that keep it to your self and her.

Answer 4

Tell your parents that you are sexually active so that if you get someone pregnant there are no surprises and they will support you. It may be illegal for you to have sex at this age (you could be tried for rape if the girl is also under the age limit.) It depends on your state, but research the law. Most states require you to be at least sixteen. I would also consider not having sex until you are happily married with a steady job and on good terms with your parents.

Answer 5

What you need to do is make sure you protect yourself each time because a girl can trap you or think she is trapping you by getting pregnant. Yes, you both did it but she could say she is on the pill but she is not. So, strap up each time so you dont have to worry as much because dont forget STD-sexually transmitted diseases. Also, it would be good if you sat your parents down and let them know what you are doing and that you are protecting yourself each time. Just so if someone pops up pregnant they aren't caught off guard! Yeah know!

Answer 6

Your only 14!

Answer 7

You should tell your parents so that they can make sure that you are protected. They can get you some condoms. You're awful young so you need to protect yourself against getting a girl pregnant.

Answer 8

First off. WTF! Your 14. You should of keep it in your pants. Come on man save it for ur senoir after prom. Now to ur question. No dont tell. You dont want your parents playing dectives on you cause thats what will happen. My sister learned taht the hard way. when she had sex.(stupid lezie). Trust me life will be better if u dont tell.

Answer 9

Seriously, keep it to yourself. I mean, sex life is a private life. You don't have to tell your parents everything you did every minute every day, right?

Answer 10

tel ur parents. take to your dad about it. first learn about safe sex , the precaution to be taken etc. if ur parents are not aware of sex education its high time u talk to counsellor at your school. unprotected sex is always a danger. be careful . your momentary enjoyments shouldnt sadden ur future. know about safe sex enjoy it.