2006-06-30 02:53:58 · 29 answers · asked by Gia M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You mature together so things definetly do change. People grow and change. The question is-will you still love the person they have become? That's what keeps the marriage strong.
2006-06-30 02:55:54 · answer #1 · answered by jenniferscott1974 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think people do change over time, I know I have. But it's wrong to think that you can marry someone then force them to change. They are how they are, and if that's not good enough, then don't get married.
2006-06-30 20:58:38 · answer #2 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone changes when they get married, it's such a big step it wouldn't be natural if we didn't. You go from being a single person to being a part of a duo, you have to consider the other person in all decisions.
You no longer have to try all the time and can waddle around in your fluffy p.j's with no make up on.
You're not working for yourself anymore but to improve life for the both of you and then theres inlaws and children and mortgages, good grief it's one hell of a big change and affects you a lot
2006-06-30 10:00:09 · answer #3 · answered by madamspud169 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people try to get married to improve a rough time in a relationship. The only changes that come are from someone willing to change. If you dont activly want to change you wont. However, I think its the people who dont change, that find the most problems.
2006-06-30 09:57:57 · answer #4 · answered by studio master 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't expect someone to change when you get married as a result of marriage but over time everyone changes because they have more knowledge, hopefully they change for the better.
2006-06-30 09:55:25 · answer #5 · answered by xx_muggles_xx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely!
Unless you have been living together a bazillion years and have already faced enough tough times together to have achieved mature love, noticeable change is inevitable! Even then, a change in attitude can happen if one or the other has unresolved preconceived notions about what marriage means.
Sometimes this is good, as in commitment showing a willingness to 'settle down'. It can be bad when commitment translates to a subliminal or overt idea of 'ownership'.
2006-06-30 10:07:52 · answer #6 · answered by toastposties 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but I also think you will change if you don't get married. That doesn't necessarily mean that the changes you make will be desirable or even beneficial. It just means that sometimes people change, sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse.
2006-06-30 09:57:24 · answer #7 · answered by David H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I've been with my bf for 10 and half years and we have 2 children..., nothing would change if we got married except that we'd both have a ring on our left hands.
2006-06-30 09:55:51 · answer #8 · answered by Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. I thought I would..I actually did, for awhile, or thought I did. And it went on for years...But my true self gradually came back out. It was there all along, I was just hiding it. I felt so guilty later on, because I didn't realize it. It's almost basically I was wasting both of our time.
So my advice is (if anyone wants to hear it), don't think you can change for someone and don't think they will change for you.
2006-06-30 09:57:31 · answer #9 · answered by merlin_steele 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you will change, but not necessarily because you get married. Change is inevitable. It occurs as you get older, and also because of outside influences in your life.
2006-06-30 09:57:29 · answer #10 · answered by Tina T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋