2006-06-30 02:52:42 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Fact from the fiction, truth from the diction. You only lose freedom in a marriage if you feel you are losing freedom in a marriage. what you are doing is just redefining the freedom. when you get a job, you redefine your freedom. You can say you are trapped but you choose to stay on the job. why? Because of the pluses the job affords. You can quit, not work, or go find another job. But the job provides the home, gas, food, nights out clubbing etc. So the so-called negatives are worth working around.
When you get married it is the same. there are adjustments you will have to make. You may not get to go out drinking when ever you please. But you also have the one you love available to you each and every night(just about). Why would you feel trapped? When you are not married you spend all the time trying to find ways to be with them, so why when you are with them you feel you need to get away? People who feel trapped were never really in love with who they married. Outside of the sex, they had no level to communicate on. Being married to the right person who you are crazy over and they to you is the best journey in life one can have. someone who always have your back, there when you need, and comfort, and someone to share nearly all your new experiences with. It ain't a prison. It is an expansion.
2006-07-02 08:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
what i feel is people in relationships sometimes do not understand that each of them is an individual and feels the other should be more like them.i see it a lot.i am not saying it is the case with every relationship.but it does happen and if you get married in them circumstances you are certainly giving up some freedom.i dont think it necessarily giving up freedom going into marraige.if you are getting married it is most likely working and you shouldnt be giving up your freedom in that case but in some cases i have no doubt that some people do give up freedom.
2006-06-30 20:17:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! Not if you married the right person, and he and you have talked about what you both want in your relationship!
If you want to still go out with the girls and party, then you need to find a guy that understands that... but you have to be willing to let HIM have his freedom too!
The best answer I could give you is marry your best friend, thats what your mate should be.
2006-06-30 09:58:11 · answer #3 · answered by chahta_ndn_girl01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not. Getting married is just joining your life with someone you really want to spend time with. Freedom is always there. If you want to do something do it as long as you don't hurt your partner. Now things have to be done together and that is going to be the best for the two. So no i don't think so.
2006-06-30 09:57:34 · answer #4 · answered by jorgec1582003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well in alot of sences yes. You dont get to go out. You always have to answer to someone, but when you get married you are married to your best friend so I wouldnt see it as a bad thing. Its just you dont have freedom like you had it before.
2006-06-30 10:36:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If in a certain situation with a guy it feels like you'd be giving up freedom, then I wouldn't get married to him....BUT, I think getting married means having to be considerate of others feelings and always thinking of them too..not just about what you want to do and where you want to go. If you feel like you'd be "giving up" anything, or you'd be missing out, then maybe you aren't ready to be married. It's all about compromsing. You have to sacrifice a little to gain a whole new life which is so worth it. I used to be a BIG party girl, up until the day I met my future fiance. Sometimes I miss going out, but it's come to the point that I realize it's not worth it. I'd rather be at home with him watching movies then going out and having my old "free" life back ANYDAY. We respect eachother and my life, or his life, isn't just that anymore, it's OUR life, and I'd give up everything to be with him. I'd move away from my hometown, I'd work every morning at 5:45am, I'd never got out and "party" without him, I'd leave my life behind to start one with him....I did, and you have to risk it all to gain it all, and thank God I lucked out because love can sometimes be a gamble with your heart.
2006-06-30 10:20:48 · answer #6 · answered by ac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely you give up alot when you get married. If you love the person though it can be allright. Only if you both can find things to do together and sperate to retain some kind of freedom. Otherwise don't get married ever!!!!!!!!
2006-06-30 09:59:18 · answer #7 · answered by rad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personal freedoms that once where an everyday thing that could tick the other individuale off could leave you a lil' tight. But all is well worth, when the world is against you, and she/he is the only one in your corner. It's a give "n" take situation.
2006-07-05 21:18:05 · answer #8 · answered by t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No do freedom with that other person you may marry
2006-06-30 10:02:24 · answer #9 · answered by dolphin_grl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently I have the best husband in the world. We go out together but there are plenty of times I go out with just my girls. Out of courtesy I let him know where I'll be but I certainly don't ask permission. I never would have married him if he kept a tight leash on me, he respects me and I respect him. We are one but we both enjoy being apart sometimes, it makes us appreciate each other all the more!
2006-06-30 11:21:45 · answer #10 · answered by KRISTY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋