2006-06-30 02:46:51 · 24 answers · asked by Goldie Locks 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I jst dont want to hurt her, but i know if i dont tell her and she finds out it will be even worse, both of my other friends think we shoud tell her all together but do u think its maybe best for me to tell her myself. Another thing that is bothering me was that it might not be true, i didnt witness it myself.....it could be jst a pack of lies which could make matters worse :(
2006-06-30 03:09:36 · update #1
No No No mind your own business,
things were going great between us until she opened her big mouth. I had everything under control , she was just jealous she didn't have a man , with her fat ugly self......
I can still be a good man sometimes...........
2006-06-30 03:07:00 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should tell her because what if you were in her shoes,You would want her to tell you if your man had a one night stand..And once a man or woman cheats he will do it again.If shes a true friend to you then tell her before she makes the mistake of marrying a cheater.She will be hurt but atleast she will know ahead of time what shes getting herselfinto .If you dont dont tell her and she finds out that you knew all along then that could you ruin your friendship with her for not telling her that her man had a one night stand.So tell her.
2006-06-30 08:32:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell her you may lose her friendship as she wont want to hear it and will not only be heartbroken but also feel incredibly let down by the man she thought she would have a happy ever after with.
If you don't tell her and she finds out you knew you could lose her that way too.
You could talk to her fiance and find out if it was a one last fling before getting married or if he is going to keep on cheating.
Either way you are risking losing your friend, personally I would want to be told but only you know how she will react to the news so only you can make this difficult decision
2006-06-30 02:53:36 · answer #3 · answered by madamspud169 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did the man just have it? Or was it quite some time ago?
In general it is good to stay out of other people's business. But on the other hand if a train is coming down the tracks and one isn't heeding the warning signs it is probably good to let them know there may be trouble ahead. I think you should talk to the man and tell him what you know, give him 48 hours to confess and work it out with his fiance.
2006-06-30 02:51:22 · answer #4 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a sticky situation. Are you positive this happened? What proof do you have?
Would you want to know if it were you? Do you think she may wind up angry with you (this could and has been known to happen) for telling her. Would she be hurt/angry if it came out in the future that you knew and didn't tell you? How do you know she won't think you're just trying to bust up their union with malicious gossip before the big day? How close of a friend is she? ...Just a few questions you might want to ask yourself before you go there with her.
If you choose to go ahead with telling her? You may want to test the waters. Start by asking her the question in reverse. For instance:
Ask her if she would tell you if knew (for sure) your husband/fiance cheated? Then ask her how she would feel if you didn't react well to her news. Depending on her response... you may or may not want to share the news.
2006-06-30 03:34:55 · answer #5 · answered by 247 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! Once a cheater, always a cheater. If you are a good friend and you truly care about her you will tell her even if it means she has to get hurt. She will be making the biggest mistake of her life that YOU could have prevented. Don't lay low and watch her suffer more and more each passing year with the prospective jerk she'd be marrying. The time is now to do something.
2006-06-30 02:53:02 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes tell her what happened and let her handle the rest but tell her straight out and smoothly. She is going to be devastated but she has to know, her future is on the line.
2006-06-30 02:50:13 · answer #7 · answered by jorgec1582003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would rather know that my fiance was a no-good piece of crap before I got married if I was the friend in this situation. If she is a good friend I think you should let her know...
2006-06-30 02:54:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i would tell her.if ur a good freind she will hate u for not telling her. tell her and be there for her.wouldnt u want her to tell u if it was the other way around!! hope it all turns out good..
2006-06-30 02:54:06 · answer #9 · answered by tequilamomma68 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, these are always the messy situations. I say tell her... ONLY because I would want my FRIEND to tell me. You are sure this is true though, right.
2006-06-30 02:50:41 · answer #10 · answered by l_horton4nightfall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋