What percentage never had a shot and what percent had a chance but were wrecked?
2006-06-30 02:37:16 · 7 answers · asked by Ben Jammin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No marriage is doomed.
But there are some marriages that will take a LOT more work and energy and commitment and sacrifice to make successful.
Some people have pretty stable marriages the entire time; other people are so different from their spouses that they can't even correctly perceive the other one's intentions, or they don't enjoy spending much time together. It can be very hard.
One also has to learn how to view marriage as a covenant rather than judging the marriage by the emotions. Emotions are important; but many marriages that end in divorce could have been saved with an attitude change.
Until both people are committed to the relationship itself, and both are willing to lay aside their own demands and really try to understand and nurture the OTHER person, the marriage will be rocky.
I'd say it's a small percentage that looked ALMOST doomed to fail with a miracle; a much larger percentage simply erode over time, and the couple simply doesn't know how to refocus or maintain the relationship, so everything eventually falls apart.
(In a westernized society based on consumerism, where you are encouraged to keep shopping to find the thing that most satisfies you and something new can always be bought, it's hard to get people to accept that marriage is not a candy shop but a commitment, and you determine how much you're willing to give to it.)
2006-06-30 02:51:18 · answer #1 · answered by Jennywocky 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I believe that yes, some marriages are doomed from the start. Sometimes, women (and men) ignore the red flags and signals and still carry on with the wedding plans. If you start your courtship with lies, dark hidden secrets, cheating and that is no way to start a marriage.
2006-06-30 09:58:51 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both. Sometimes people get married for the wrong reasons. Like because they get pregnant. Or they think they love each other. Then 6 months down he line they find out it was just lust and that they actually hate each other, then you have waisted your time and money to pay for the wedding and now the divorce
2006-06-30 10:05:57 · answer #3 · answered by rad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends. Sometimes both people feel that they love each other enough to be able to work at some huge differences and make it, others knew they were making a mistake when they walked down the aisle.
2006-06-30 09:44:26 · answer #4 · answered by sunshineandsilliness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget percentages.
Marriages are never doomed from the start. It takes two people to want to get married and two people who want to continue to make that marriage succeed.
2006-06-30 09:41:30 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it might be 50/50.
2006-06-30 09:42:48 · answer #6 · answered by kalischild57 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just can't know where the path leads...
2006-06-30 12:21:10 · answer #7 · answered by Nixon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋