How do you deal with criticism when it comes to life choices?

Question

For teens/young adults under the age of 25

Answer 1

i think and listen about what is said and realize i do NOT possibly know the best situation for everything... (as smart as i think i might be)

i welcome constructive cristism especailly from someone i know who is trying help. and i don't take it personally! and am grateful for any free advise that might make me a better person!

Answer 2

"You cant bake a cake without cracking a few eggs."


I have made MANY HUGE HORRIBLE mistakes in my life. We ALL have a journey to make through life. We'll make many choices along the way. Some good, some not so good. We make those choices that we believe at the time are the right ones to make. Whereas it would be nice if we had a magic telescope into the future that would let us see the outcome of each possible choice before we made a decision, there is no such thing. We are left to stumble around in the dark, hoping that each footfall lands on solid ground. From each wrong choice we learn a new lesson. Now that lesson probably wont help you with your next decision as each is circumstantially exclusive. But, we learn a little more about ourselves, the world around us, other people, and our relationship with it all, that I believe to be quite worthwhile. Unless, the student is unwilling and stubborn, it is progress. Just take comfort in that there is not a soul who has ever lived, is living, or ever will live, nor life in ANY species, that has not made a poor judgment call from time to time. Thus, I dont feel ANYONE has the right to criticize the life choices of another (an exception being in the event that those choices were made selfishly and with the foreknowledge that said choice would hurt others). So, sit back, do the best you can, and enjoy your life and this amazing world around us with the wonder of the child that you shall inevitably cognitively always remain and dont worry about what anyone else has to say about your decisions.

BTW, I'm 34; but this is truely how I feel and I didn't think you'd object to it.

Answer 3

To me, it doesn't matter what people think or say, because in the end, it is my life and not theirs. If they don't like what I am doing or the decisions that I am making, then they obviously don't have enough respect for me. I actually had a situation happen once with my own mother. Back when I had just turned 18, I got my GED and started going to college. I met this guy online, who turned out to be a teacher that I would have to have for a class that I was taking. I changed the class because I wanted to be with this guy. We got along great for the first few months, and I moved in with him. Well, to make a long story short, my mother criticized me to the point of no return. He got abusive, both mentally and physically, and I made the decision to leave him, and I got stabbed 16 times. After I was well enough to leave state, I did, and even though there was a TON of criticism from my mother to stay in state and wait for this a**hole, I left anyway, and my life has never been better. That's the only way to do it - don't let other people criticize what you do, and if you do, remind yourself that it is your life and not theirs. The decision is up to you. I am with a great guy and we are getting married in August. (I'm now 23.)

Answer 4

Be polite and listen to what they have to say, they may have some advice that is helpful after all, but know in the back of your mind while you are listening to the criticism, that it is your life and you are the one who has to pay for the decisions that you make and it is your choice how to live your life. Those that take the time to criticize are those that care about you and your well being, they are doing it out of love.

Answer 5

that's the project we anxious about what the international thinks persons. you stay your existence for your self. no remember what you do someone is often going to assert something about you. I do me certain i'm getting laughed at or downed in some kinda of way yet I save it transferring because I under no circumstances want someone to dictate to me what they prefer me to do. for instance i'm getting my haircut a particular and likely I were given laughed at yet, my haircut makes me satisfied. that's what makes human beings insecure and shallow or perhaps dictates who we date.a huge social gathering is even as it contains love we problem about what are acquaintances imagine. you've a helpful guy who's a manager at McDonald's yet on condition that your acquaintances communicate about you,you ignore him. on the different hand you've a helpful searching guy who've a helpful automobile, large homestead, and a helpful revenues. your acquaintances love him and what do you do?You get with and also you stumble on out that he beats you each day!!! undergo in ideas for each unfavorable element pronounced about you there is something helpful pronounced too. merely because you do not hear would not advise that is not any longer being pronounced.

Answer 6

Accept the good, try to ignore the bad. Don't let someone's sick pervertedness in down talking others get to you. Karma will get to them in due time. In other cases we just need to always know that alot of the time, the truth hurts. So before it seems like someone maybe trying to be rude, analyze how much truth is in their comment.

Answer 7

I always listen to it because they are on the outside looking in so to speak. They may see something I don't because Love is Blind, and that statement couldn't be more true.

Answer 8

Honestly, it's no one else's but your decision to make whatever it may be.

Of course, some input may be useful but if someone is putting you down...I'd say cut them out of your life.

Answer 9

As you grow up, you figure out that it really DOESN'T MATTER what anyone else thinks. You have to make your own way.

Answer 10

I'm 28, so there goes my response!