2006-06-30 02:27:35 · 42 answers · asked by CJ75 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The truth............however, what difference does it make?
2006-06-30 02:30:55 · answer #1 · answered by Uwanna Kissimmi 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ha sorry pal but there isn't one right answer to that question. They won't believe if you say they're your first, and some wouldnt want to be anyway. No one wants to hear you've been with 20 girls either. In fact its best to avoid answering it if at all possible, unless you're really gonna marry the girl thats asking. Play it off "I've been with a few but no one before you really matters anymore! You're the only one I want to be with" If the girl is persistent then try to figure how many you think she's been with and take away 3 and say thats how many you've been with. So if you think she's been with 5 say 2. If it gets more serious and youre thinking about marriage thats when its a good idea to be honest.
2006-06-30 02:36:58 · answer #2 · answered by Emily D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
8 or 9
2006-07-05 08:50:11 · answer #3 · answered by rabbit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tricky. if you say a really small number it means that you have saved yourself for special people which is good but means that the girl needs to compete with the memory of them and that you've been in serious relationships before, which can be threatening to a girl. If you say loads then equally she may feel like she has to compete with the experience you have and she may not feel special to you because basically you will do anything.
I'd say 10 was a good figure, although it depends on your personality and age. If you're only 18 then lower. If you've slept with tons of woman then lie, we really don't care if you lie about that, I would just want to hear a lowish number. 10 is good.
2006-06-30 02:36:46 · answer #4 · answered by Lilac Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, they just want you to be honest, whether the answer is one, none, 120 or I lost count. If you are honest with them, it shows you respect them enough not to fear judgement from them, its a good start for things. I suspect if you are thinking about telling them what they want to hear, that you are not at an emotional stage where you are ready to think about the concerns and needs of someone in a relationship and should therefore not be going down this route.
If you are just out for the sex, you probably don't care what they think and what they feel, so say whatever you like, and do your own research, but if its your girlfriend asking, give her the respect she deserves and be honest, even if honest means saying "I feel really bad because its loads and I don't even remember some of them".
2006-06-30 02:34:04 · answer #5 · answered by Tefi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They Want To Hear The TRUTH And Nothing But It. If U Lie U Prolly Wont Have A Chance.
2006-06-30 02:46:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion: I believe when a girl meets you and start going out with you, should not care how many girls have you slept with, she should ask instead for both to have a HIV test before both start a relationship. If everyone would had done this many would have not die of such disease. I believe when a girl ask, is because she had slept with many men also. So play save, stay alive!
2006-06-30 02:37:04 · answer #7 · answered by Evy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them the truth. They're not interested in the specific number, anyway. They mainly want to hear the story behind the number (your explanation, your justifications, your philosophy on sex), particularly if the number is very high or very low.
It gives them some useful insight into how you tick, for compatibility purposes. Frankly, you might as well give them that information up front, and get the same information from them.
2006-06-30 03:54:28 · answer #8 · answered by Jim R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say tell her the truth. If she doesn't want to know then she shouldn't ask. That may sound cold but I would rather be honest, Especially in a relationship that is just getting going. If it matters so much that she gets upset or bothered, the relationship wouldn't have lasted anyway.
2006-06-30 02:38:39 · answer #9 · answered by Papa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They want to hear the truth unfortunately. As bizarre a concept as it may seem a lot of women have a thing about honesty. Whatever that is...
2006-06-30 02:33:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the girl. My current girlfriend (soon to be my wife) asked me once and I told her the correct answer and she was fine with it, even though it was a high number.
An old girlfriend/psychotic witch asked me the same thing and again I told her the correct answer and she didn't stop crying for two days.
2006-06-30 02:31:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋