I am bi-curious and I told my wife... It took her quite a while to come around to the idea, and nothing has come of it..... I am a "if it feels good, why not do it" kind of guy.... why aren't there more people like me?? Are there more people like me?? What do I do now??
2006-06-30 02:23:37 · 7 answers · asked by I Have Questions 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i commend you for telling your wife, there's so many married bisexual guys out there who cheat on their wives with a guy when the wife isn't around, so by telling her about it, even before you've done aynthing is very commendable.
there are "if it feels good...do it" people out there, but they usually are very open about it because they don't want people to look down on them for being sexually unrepressed. i like to call them closet freaks-socially acceptible people on the streets, totally freaky in between the sheets.
not saying that all bisexual people go around advertising it, but if you live in a small town, people like to talk and it makes life awkward when everyone knows your business.
what do you do now? depends on your relationship with your wife. some women are cool with their guy's bisexuality, some are fine with it, just as long as you don't act upon it, some aren't cool with it at all.
what you need to do is talk it through with your wife, ask her what she feels about it, and how she'd feel about you acting on your bisexuality. listen to her opinion, and don't allow it to become an argument. in fact it's probably best to not say much, and just let her say everything that she feels about the subject. let her know you value her opinion, and you never know, maybe she might be fine with you and another guy, or she might not. either way, you both need to agree to some ground rules, and you follow them to a "t".
good luck to you!
2006-06-30 02:41:44 · answer #1 · answered by Krazie 3 · 14⤊ 2⤋
How did you tell her??? Im bi married female and haven't told my husband - he has NO idea. I would love to tell him but am very afraid - so congrats on being able to.
I guess (since I havent taken the step yet of telling) maybe bring it up again with her. Do you want to include or do you just want to do your thing without her? If you want to do it w/o her she may think of it as cheating...
2006-06-30 12:19:54 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of guys in your same situation and they are living full and fantastic sex lives as well as having great satisfying marriages..... check out http://www.sexuality.org/mgswing.html
2006-06-30 10:00:44 · answer #3 · answered by mutherwulf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you arent the only one. and how did your wife react?
2006-06-30 12:35:28 · answer #4 · answered by pistolpete797@yahoo.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sure that you arent the ONLY one, although I dont know any personally.
2006-06-30 09:26:44 · answer #5 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF THERE IS ANY THING TO BE DONE AT THIS POINT DISCUSS IT WITH YOUR WIFE FIRST
2006-06-30 09:26:05 · answer #6 · answered by JULIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree talk to ur wife about it!!!
2006-06-30 09:27:15 · answer #7 · answered by kaikai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋