How does one cope with the loss of an on-line friend?

Question

My Friend, I will miss you.

http://blog.360.yahoo.com/blog-5rHtGoY8YqqR_3eDBDwFmoCo5IrrldU-?cq=1&p=471

Answer 1

Dear Mojo, we will all miss her, her place will be empty and no one will be able to fill it.
Allow yourself to go through your feelings about the death. Normal and predictable feelings you may have include shock, anger, denial, depression and anxiety. Nurture yourself. Give yourself plenty of time and space to relax, take it easy and do whatever helps you feel better, such as taking walks, baths or naps; drinking tea; listening to music; reading.
Take any pressure or expectations off yourself to "get over it" quickly. Grief can last from weeks to months or longer.
And lastly, stay connected to your friends (us), we love you so much.

Answer 2

It rocks the faith a bit. It's times like these, when such a big part of us wants to turn our backs on God, yet, at the same time, we haven't a clue as to the whole scheme of things.

There is an answer to the "why" question. As could be expected, Ivy would have it before anyone else does !

I joked with her once about people dying to get "Off of Alan's Friends page instead of on it ! "

All I know is that she was my very first non-family member friend on my 360 page. As a complete and total newbie, I read her answers and her questions and thought, "This Gal's so sweet and nice and smart ... what the heck, I'll give it a shot."

I sent her an invite and she accepted immediately. We talked a bit about vacations, marriage/relationships, YA and 360 ... she was always encouraging me to "play nice, ALAN ! "

How does one cope with the loss of an on-line friend ?

I don't have a clue. I thank God that I only knew her this way. Had I known her personally, I would be a total basket case.

I think the only thing I can do, the only thing that should be done, is to include Jim in our prayers -- he must be a special man as she was such a special girl ...

... That's how I'm coping with it. Praying for Jim. Our loss is NOTHING compared to his and their families.

Of course, She just HAD TO BE THE FIRST ONE to answer that question too ! ;-)

Answer 3

I was going back checking some questions I'd answered and came across this sad news of Poison Ivy..
So sorry, this is terrible... There is nothing anyone can say except to honor this beautiful person by keeping her memory alive for all those answerer's yet to come who now will not get the privilege to know her as her many friends did..

Answer 4

The best way one can...... I never met Miss Ivy in person but from reading her q/a's and blog - I feel like I knew all that I needed to know about her. She was warm, good-natured, playful, and seemed to genuinely care about others. We are all a little richer because of Ivy - but today I feel empty and broken.....

Answer 5

Rest In Peace Ivana

Answer 6

This is very sweet of you, Mojo.
I'm wearing the green face in sympathy with her close online friends, because I was not fortunate to know her well. Still, I will remember her sweetness and good humor :-)

I don't have an answer to your question :'-( other than riding the pain that is inevitable, and staying together to grieve. Remember you are not alone to cope with this, MojoMan!

Meeting online friends is such an unexpected treasure, and losing them is such a weird and difficult event.
Thanks for doing this for her.

Answer 7

Ah, this is annoying. this is extremely real the police do no longer understand each and every thing, so except they have some particular reason to think of that, they're perhaps basically leaping to conclusions. in need of being a detective your self. all you're able to do is remember the solid circumstances, and not close down that one concept that he must be accessible someplace. (((Sirius)))

Answer 8

I miss her 2. But I have 2 see this as a good thing 4 her, as she's united with her God now. She has a beautiful soul, may she rest in peace always.

Answer 9

The same way we deal with the loss of any friend. We grieve, we comfort each other, we pray for her family, eventually in our own time, we move on with our lives, but we never forget her memory and how she touched our lives.

Answer 10

I'm still sitting here in shock my friend...she was a wonderful and giving person...hard for me to believe it was her "time to go". For anyone who didn't know her, you missed out on knowing one of the sweetest people in the world. For those of you who did know her....keep her close in your heart and she will always be there with you no matter where you go.

Answer 11

There is this quote I can't find right know about not being sad that it's over but being grateful to have known someone.... It's not a lot of comfort but all I have.