i have 2 children and now i have started feeling that my husband dosent love me anymore what sholuld i do?

Question

we have lost that spark of being a couple.
i have tried to talk to him but he always denies this fact

Answer 1

Make sure you're giving him time. When you have children to take care of, it's easy to forget to give your relationship the attention it needs. Make Friday night date night, and date like you did when you were first together. If you can't go out, create your date once the kids are in bed. Make sure the children have a bedtime! Then after the kids go to bed, you can have some special time together after they go to bed on a nightly basis.

Answer 2

Sounds like you guys need some "couple time." Try to get someone to leave the kids with (grandma's are great for this), and spend a day or two together w/o the kids. If you're kids are little, and you haven't been together much w/o them, this could very well explain the lack of "spark."

BTW, I very sincerely doubt your husband just doesn't love you anymore, this is going to sound crass, but he comes home every night, right? In his mind, he's working, providing for his family, that's showing his love. No, he's probably not bringing home the roses and it's not all romance like it used to be, but that's because of the grind of daily living. Do your part to make some romance in your relationship as well. I firmly believe in a weekly date for married couples, my hubby and I still manage one a week (most weeks) after 18 1/2 years of marriage, and I can honestly say, each year has been better than the last. But it takes work to get over those natural "slumps" that we have in life. Don't lose heart over this, it happens, just work to get out of it.

Answer 3

When he gets home from work to you complain how hard your day was with the kids? Do you give him nasty looks when he does something that isn't the way you would do it? Do you tell him that you need more money? Do you tell him that you need more attention? The kids need him more? hmmmmmmmmmm
Imagine how awful it is for him to come home to such negative energy. It becomes a circle of frustration and exhaustion that turnes into bitterness and blahness.

I am not saying for you to be a servent. I am just saying that if you make his life good he will make your life good. Have a talk with him. Make a plan of how to make each other feel better.
How to make a happier home. What more of you does he need? What do you need? He might need ten minutes to unwind before he is part of the family. Men can feel overwhelmed by the responsibablity of supporting a family. Thank him for all of his hard work. Don't play a game of whos day was harder.
Make a decision to build each other up and not down.
You also might need some alone time to take care of yoursel. Two little ones take so much energy from you. Get some time for yourself.

Answer 4

I would say sit down and talk to him and find
out the root problem with the relationship.
He may be seeing someone or may not know
how to manage being a Father working and and
good husband. Men can not juggle alot of things
in their life like us women. They are weak in the
way that they can not open up that easy about
their feelings as us women. I would also say be sure not to let yourself go be sure you have makeup on and are dressed nice when he gets
home from work. And do not get into just wearing old sweats and looking sloopy.

Answer 5

when did you have your 2nd child. r u sure it's nothing like post-partum depression that you're dealing with? why would u think that your husband doesn't love you anymore? is he acting unloving? maybe it's time to take a get away from the 2 kids where you can remind each other just how much you love each other. let your imagination run WILD and do something that the 2 of you haven't ever done before.

Answer 6

He still loves you, no doubts there, it's just that the spark has been a little suppressed. Try going on a weekend outing, just the two of you, and be romantic again. Do the little things you did when you were dating, to, and for , each other. You'll find he still loves you. Good Luck!!

Answer 7

Maybe you need a weekly date...some place like a nice restaurant or just a walk in the park. Just because the two of you are raising children now doesn't mean that you should focus 100% on the kids. Good luck to you!

Answer 8

I know the feeling I have 3 kids and hubby is the same way with me as well.Before the kids it was all good and great but now it is almost nothing.I was told to make a weekend for just you and him get a sitter and get away and be very romantic.Try buying lingerie he don't know about buy some candles,rose petals,bubble bath,get hair and nails done and for the weekend be his sexy model and lavish him and then tell him see it wasn't so hard for me so now it is your turn. Hope it helps.

Answer 9

With 2 children maybe you havent felt that sexy, and maybe you tell him one too many times that you aren't in the mood. Stop that! I made a promise to myself that when I married I would never say no to sex. I've kept my word and we have been married for 26 years. Honey, men want sex, sex, sex, and did I say sex. And its up to you to get in the mind set of ...wow having sex is fun, the more you do it the more you are going to want it, I promise you. I love it, always have, always will. The sparks will be flyin!

One more thing...all you other women if you will think about it you know what I say is true, while you are trying to talk to him all he is thinking about is ......yes...sex! Ask a man...he will agree.

Answer 10

I do not know how old both of you are. If sexual incompatibility is a problem, you need an expert's counselling. If you are well past the prime of your youth, the sexual interest will naturally taper off. Divert your energy in other activities. Keep a lively interest in all that is around you, including your spouse. Let both of you be devoted to each other.