i was thinking about why we women always feel like we need to sleep with a man to keep him about.. I know in my past i've done that.. thinking that will be a good way to keep them around maybe get them to like me or something and it never turns out well..
when will we realize we are worth more!
i know not all women feel this way.. but deep down you know you've thought about it!
are ourself essteems that low?
2006-06-30 00:54:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
It has been my experience that men are physical creatures while women are emotional creatures. Men equate sex with love while women need to be nurtured mentally. So, sometimes women give in to men's constant craving for physical/sexual contact without being fulfilled emotionally. We hope that by sharing the most intimate parts of ourselves with a man that we will receive love in return. This often leads to heartbreak, disappointment, bitterness, and resentment on the behalf of us women. We live in a society that is couple friendly and we want to be part of a couple, so we sell ourselves short. It is sad but true. Yes, low self-esteem is definitely a factor. That is why we must begin early instilling in our little girls that they are beautiful, wonderful and powerful INDIVIDUALS and that they have a choice as to who they share themselves with.
2006-07-13 09:16:25 · answer #1 · answered by intentionalmasterpiece 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There'a book by author I. Vanzant."In the Meantime". I suggest you read it. Also, women only feel the way they do because they allow people to treat them that way. A man who never brings your self-esteem up or even make you feel good about yourself is NOT worth you time girl. Find another one and don't be too dependent on men. They're just men.
2006-07-13 22:39:25 · answer #2 · answered by Equinox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might sound odd and please don't take it the wrong way, but I have never cared for anyone more than I cared for myself. I have never been interested in a man I could not relate to on several levels. Merely being around means nothing to me, I've got better things to do than to trade sexual favors for someone to occupy space. Sex is a wonderful expression of intimacy and a most pleasing endeavor. If a man gives less than 100%, I would not sleep with him...meaning that nothing in my nature would permit me to sleep with a man just to keep him around.
2006-07-12 16:31:01 · answer #3 · answered by ValleyViolet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps it is a manifest of a hidden desire to be loved and wanted. Although, it is a poor method to find true love. Myself i do not feel that way; but for those who sail in that boat; try something constructive instead; try to make good friends to stand by you; learn to be a good friend and eventually hopefuully you will one day meet a man who loves you for what you are and not for the pleasures you are able to give
2006-07-08 03:21:21 · answer #4 · answered by dark and beautiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My answer as an ancient 74 year old [active] male is, "Respect yourself above all else, an 'easy lay is anyone's lay"; and that is what you seem to be doing I'm sorry to say, no-one will respect you. You are very young I think and I hope you learn quickly. Sex is exciting and 'Out of this world' as I found out, but used as a tool it can destroy you, don't be impatient!, I hope you remember that this advice came from an Englishman
2006-07-11 18:29:45 · answer #5 · answered by Jimbo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because it works sometimes and your right sometimes its a self essteem issue. I think this is a great question every women should ask herself.
2006-07-11 04:16:34 · answer #6 · answered by twin b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U dont have to sleep with someone to keep them. The way I look at it is if he dont like me for me than its not meant to be. A man dont like a girl that is going to give it up easy. He is going to look at u jus like he look at another female and than u r going to have a name for urself.
2006-07-13 08:41:08 · answer #7 · answered by thickjuicey2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how u feel....after everything you feel so cruddy!!! but if you think about, has society ever taught us anything different??? no it hasnt....weve been taught that in order to feel good about ourselves, we have to sleep with men, even much depend on men....we cant change the world in whole, but you can change....i became more confident about who i am, and i love myself
2006-07-13 18:51:30 · answer #8 · answered by krispiemeow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's just nature we are afraid and aware that we might lose something that we really love sometime,however you need to be aware that sometime guys don't usually show feeling. he maybe really care about you but he dun show it so you just over-thinking that he's betraying you by mistake...take care
2006-07-13 14:23:05 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet_Sugar_Pie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm is it possible to equate sex with self esteem
simply you dont have to have sex with any one... but if you want a close intimate relationship with a man.... be sure he is gunna be wanting a sexual relationship with you...
it isn't about him or you not valuing all the other things about you it is simply human nature that he is gunna want sex... and if you arent wanting se with him... what are you in relationship with him for?
Yes I am a woman...
2006-07-10 12:45:51 · answer #10 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋