I have been seperated from my husband for years and still he says that having sex with me is out of the question because I am still a married woman and that would be fornication. We really do love each other and he is prepared to wait for me to get my divorce. He is worth it but it is so hard to feel the way we do and not be able to express it. A little confused, any ideas and advice on how I can manage this new relationship without settling and feeling like I am being given an ultimatum? Thanks
2006-06-30 00:51:52 · 23 answers · asked by spoiltrini 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank you all for such encouraging words of wisdom, any suggestions for a good but reasonable divorce attorney in the NY area?
2006-06-30 01:08:03 · update #1
My goodness, this sounds like a man with some integrity. Those are not easy to find. He may just be worth waiting for.
2006-06-30 00:54:28 · answer #1 · answered by Bruce B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love the man, you will respect his beliefs. You say he is worth waiting for so wait. I can see how it would be difficult if you are in love and attracted to each other but there are things you can do to express your feelings other than sex. I don't think it's an ultimatum. It's just his belief system and obviously one he takes very seriously. It's hard to find a man with such strong morals so I think that's great. Just hang in there and love him and I'm sure it will be worth it. In the mean time, lots of cold showers.
2006-06-30 00:59:09 · answer #2 · answered by jonny'sgirl06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is just living the way the bible tells us to live.. i am very proud of him.. and you sound like you are going to have a great husband ... so try and get your divorce and things will be great for you.. you have a man tha believes and has morals and i think you should stand beside him through all this.. i know that it can be frustrating but it will all be worth it in the end.. have you not the same beliefs he does... the bible does say sex out of wedlock is fornication but since you are married it would be adultery to you.. so i would just wait and be glad you have met a man tha is got a consious and morals..
2006-06-30 00:57:13 · answer #3 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Miss Trini,
I'm assuming you were brought up with parents who taught you good morals and the right & wrong way to do things.
I agree with the man in question! NOT YOU!!!
You have found a man with great morals and Christian values!!!!!!!!!!! You are so lucky!! What's wrong with you??????
You should be more appreciative as he is a diamond in the rough. There are not many men like him in the world anymore!!!!!!!
If you don't find value in his beliefs, leave him alone so that he can share his dencency & goodness with some one that has gratitude for his proper upbringing!
2006-06-30 07:53:28 · answer #4 · answered by Healthy Me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect the way he feels. There are a lot of us who waited for the special person to show up in there life to marry and start the joy of having sex with. Be patient and it will pay off. Best of luck.
2006-06-30 06:08:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is that you can not force him to do something he doesnt want to do. There are a lot of ppl who want to wait until marriage to have sexual relations. If he is worth it, then there should be no problem. But make sure he is def worth it before committing to marriage. For now just continue to love him, everything takes time. Good luck!
2006-06-30 00:56:00 · answer #6 · answered by Jazzy Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is tough, He has to be admired for sticking to his beleifs, But at the cost of your feelings? The one he loves? Than again he says he is willing to wait. Maybe he is seeing if you are really going to get that divorde or if maybe you have your ex on the back burner incase you need him.. How about foreplay and oral sex, are these out as well? Try seducing him, be a bit forcefull. If you are into the heavy petting thing try to stradle him naked and gyrate your wet vaginia over his naked penis. Or try putting a bit of your vaginal fluids on your fingers and stealthly get it in nose shot of him. I don't mean to be so gross or graphic but these are the things that get me going. Anyway, good luck.
2006-06-30 01:00:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know about fornication and such however it reads like you have found a wiser one than most,especially in these socially ill days.
2006-06-30 00:56:10 · answer #8 · answered by PSG_30127 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are soo many more ways to express love than having sex. Technically you are still married and I dont blame him for wanting to wait. You must respect his morals and his decisions. Oh yeah ....get you asss to court and get cracking on your long overdue divorce.
2006-06-30 00:55:13 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a shower and be thankful that you have found someone that appreciates you and respects you. Respect him by not pushing the issue. Sounds like you may have found a person who will be positive in your life. He tells you how he feels and treats you with respect. Extremely special.
2006-06-30 00:56:22 · answer #10 · answered by elfy1949 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋