befor my wife and i even knew each other i was prity wild, ive deff settled down now but she always questions me about my past, if i tell her she gets mad at me and acts hurt or like im descusting. but if i dont tell her she gets mad too. what do i do? eather way i loose?
2006-06-30 00:48:15 · 22 answers · asked by lost_n_texas44 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell her that all those years you were trying to figure out just what happiness was, and now that you know you will never do anything to risk that happiness. With those other women, you were looking for her and too dumb to even know it. Now that you have found her, you wish you had met her first.
She doesn't really want to hear "exciting tales of your wicked past" -- she wants reassurance that it's over, that you don't miss it, that you're happier now.
2006-06-30 00:57:30 · answer #1 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her. She may feel hurt or upset for a while. But trust me in the end she will get over it. Its probably some insecurities on her part. The things that she doesn't know will bother her more in the long run. My husband has told me about some pretty crazy things that he has done in the past. He told me about it though and now it doesn't bother me at all. She may also be getting upset if your friends bring up stuff but won't finish the story because she doesn't know about it. Which may cause her to feel like your hiding stuff from her. Good luck.
2006-06-30 07:56:35 · answer #2 · answered by SSG wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel ya. I was the same way I did alot of wild things that my wife doesn't think was appropriate. I told her that what I did in my past was not of her concern that now is what matters. What it boils down to is if she can't get over it it's not worth it. Then find another woman that won't harp on you for what you have done in the past.
2006-06-30 09:56:51 · answer #3 · answered by rad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look your past is your past, thats why they call it a "past" you cant change it even if you wanted to . try to explain to her that what you have been through is part of what made you who you are. it was a learning experance and now you know exactly how you dont want to be. tell her that if she is only gonna get mad than you dont feel comfortable talken to her about it. if this all happend befor you got to gather than she should just let it go. tell her how it makes you feel like less of a person that you cant get away form it , not becouse you dont want to but becouse she keeps on bringing it up. and that is only going to couse problems as long as you cant get over it. ive battled each one of you questions man and i hope that my experance has helped you out in some small way. life is hard and love is even harder. but its all worth it. if your wife is anything like mine than you have nothing to worrie baout in the long run as long as you stay open and loving. good luck
2006-06-30 08:26:12 · answer #4 · answered by armyguy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she is putting her guilt of emailing other men on to you. She feels bad about it and she is going to make you feel the same in hopes it will ease her mind. I read your next question about the emails to other men. Unless she is meeting them, there is only reason to suspect that it is emotional. That too can be damaging. I know first hand. Anyway, don't let her get you to that point. You are better than that right? Next time she asks just tell her you don't want to argue and leave it at that. If she gets upset, it's on her.
2006-06-30 08:31:03 · answer #5 · answered by whatupg62271 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should just let her be for the meantime only huh..
she will later realize that she acts stupid about it.imagine, she'll ask then get mad.well, if like you said you were wild then, maybe she really has a good reason to act mad or be disturbed about it.but just wait and later on she'll realize and ask herself whatever she did that made you change or made you want to spend the rest of your life with her. if that was really your behavior but if your behaving as if your still like that "wild guy".then you should also ask yourself why you're even in this marrriage.
2006-06-30 07:59:06 · answer #6 · answered by myri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smile. Kiss her. Tell her nothing could ever pin you down but her. Stop building your rep of the past to her. Start changing the subject.
Don't cheat on her. She has a serious insecurity problem.
2006-06-30 07:51:29 · answer #7 · answered by itwisme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind her that you chose her over all others, you love HER. Everyone has history and your past is what made you the man you are today! It is your past that has you appreciate who she is and why you love her so much, and since you married her you feel like no one else matters. Do not disclose your past with her, no matter how much she wants to know...she's too insecure to handle it, and she's using this information to feed her insecurity.
2006-06-30 08:03:28 · answer #8 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is because she was not part of it.
Maybe it is the way in which you tell her about it and you sound as if you enjoyed it more than your life with her.
Maybe it is that you sound as if you are bragging about what you did.
It can be anything - remember, she is female!
Next time you should just say that you want to forget about that time of your life and concentrate on your life with her.
That is what you should be doing anyway!
Good luck.
2006-06-30 07:55:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should realize the past is the past. She new you had one when you got married, we all do. If she loves you she should just let it go. If not, she wasn't worth it to begin with and you should just move on with your life. There is someone out there that will except you for who you are, not what you where.
2006-06-30 07:53:32 · answer #10 · answered by sherbearsamc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋