I really loved my husband but when he started chitting on me i ve lost my love .please what should i do ?

Question

Remember we wedded in church and we have two kids at the moment.please advice.

Answer 1

....he chitt on you????? awwww thats stinks.....

Answer 2

He has broken his marriage vows. When he married you, he promised in front of God to love, honour and obey you. If you are not good enough for him (not meaning that you are an inferior wife, because you're not - don't you dare let him make you think it was somehow your fault) if he had an ounce of respect he would never have done this - I really don't know what's wrong with men these days >:-/
If you stay married to him, you are perpetuating the myth that it is OK to break marriage vows, vows which should be made to honour. He has completely destroyed your trust in him - how could you possibly stay married to him now?
The same thing happened to me. I've been divorced for 4 years, and being a single Mum isn't easy, but I have more self respect than to stay with someone who cannot be trusted. (And I gave him every chance)
This is my experience, however you may find it difficult. I would advise that you spend some time away from the cheating little shite (you might catch something) and pray hard. The answer will come to you. Get as much advice as you can.
Bless you xxxx

Answer 3

Mmm sure, and that i think you're the nice and comfy youthful aspect she met too, huh? And yeah, her operating to change into skinny back feels like she's made no attempt in any way including her seems. you're an insensitive jerk (likely why she would not favor to spend time with you and prefers her acquaintances), what did you assume her to do, purely no longer age even as you became the fat old loser that you likely are? you've likely both bodily replaced a lot, some would say for the more serious, because you've both elderly. So pass on, attempt to locate some little 18 3 hundred and sixty 5 days old this is keen to get her kicks with you - I guess you at the instantaneous are not the nice and comfy youthful stud you look to imagine you're, and also you do not sound wealthy, so we will see how that one is going. Then, once you come domicile, defeated and realising what a sad old annoying loser you extremely are, in the experience that your spouse continues to be there to p.c.. you up back (and enable's desire no longer), do not you inspect her and experience like she isn't ok for you. this is the different.

Answer 4

When I have problems and I ask for advice I always hear "pray". Prayer is a great way to seek the comfort that you will need in the up and coming months. You should also be aware that with the kind of relationship that you had it is not going to be easy moving on however, it is something that you have to do. You deserve better than you were treated and don't sell yourself short for anyone. Give yourself time to mourn and cry. Moving on and healing comes in steps. Talk about it with your best friend or your closest family member. Get angry and scream into a pillow, or the attic, or basement. Pretending is does not hurt only prolongs your recovery from this wound. A broken heart is the hardest to heal. Work on you. Make yourself more beautiful, on the inside and out. Keep loving the children and do not push them in the middle of the drama. There is someone out there for everyone and you haven't found them yet. Keep love in your heart and on your lips and the rest will occur in it's appointed time.

Answer 5

The important decision you have to make is whether or not you would always be thinking of the 'other woman/women' when you were subsequently making love.

It is easier to forgive than to forget. Does a leopard ever change its spots?

You must think of the children but in a rational way. Stay together and the grousing, snarling, taunting and bitter arguments could do them harm.

A chat with a good solicitor would point you in the right direction with regard to your home, finance and access to the children for him and the grandparents.

Only you know what life has been like with him, but don't look at the past with rose tinted spectacles.

Some say divorce is as bad as a bereavement but it is possible to build another life. Many widows and divorcees would testify to this.

Answer 6

Some relationships can survive when a partner cheats but it all comes down to what you feel and what kind of person you are. Personally i do not believe in forgiving someone who cheats, if they love you as much as they claim to they would never have even considered it. you say you have lost your love for your husband, in that respect, i would think it would be best to end things. Children who are brought up in a loveless marriage feel the pressure and stress that their parents are going through so it is not always best to stay together for their sake. Have a long and honest talk with your husband and find out how you both feel and decide from there what is best for you and your family. If you do decide to break up make sure your children understand what is happening and that you will both always be there for them.

Answer 7

Make yourself look beautiful and then go to him, ask him what he really wants, tell him that you love him. Just talk and keep talking, make him talk, tell him your pain, hold his eyes, make him know you will be there forever, tell him that when he's ready, when he's had enough of other women, you will still be there. It's hard to do this when you are torn apart, but if you truely love someone, you can swallow your pride and just wait out the storm. Those that don't understand true love, will advise you to leave him and find another. But they have never loved, and if they have, it was not deep. Never give up, just keep loving, a good man will see and if he does not, then you lost less than you thought you had. I'm a man and I could never hurt a woman like the one I describe, but If I had to, I would be haunted by her endless love and I would return to her the moment I came to my senses. "Love is forever and eternity is not long enough for me to give you all the love i have." Tell him that and then walk away, give him a moment to think. Tony in remotest Isan.

Answer 8

I just answered a similar question to this.It dose`nt matter where you got married,at the end of the day,do what is right for you and the children.
You said you LOVED him (past tense) don`t let an unhappy marriage deprive you of some happiness for you and your family.Counciling only works if you both want it.Sadly most men find it easier to carry on cheating and ignore everthing.Good luck in whatever you decide to do but make sure you get your life back.

Answer 9

I was married in church too and divorced a long time ago for the same reason when my daughter was 7. That was the best thing that I've done to myself and I've never looked back. My daughter is 19 now. She dreamt for years that I and her dad could go back together. But recently she acknowledged my decision of leaving her Dad was a right one. Children understand. Be brave.

Answer 10

I have never been in your situation & can't say that I know how you feel, but I can say that I care even though
I don't know you personally

do you still go to church? you should seek counsiling
from a pastor or christian counselor they will have the
best advice

the only thing I could say from my thinking would be
why did he do this? were things between the two of you
not on good terms? if so maybe you both need to
change the way you treat eachother.
if he still loves you & you still love him then let eachother
know how you feel -take time to be alone w/ eachother
& start over, but PLEASE TALK TO A COUNSELOR

I wish you both luck

Answer 11

if you can forgive and forget, then that's the way forward.

If not, don't stay for the kids, it never works. My partner and I tried that and my daughter still talks about all the time I spent crying in that relationship. Get yourself and the kids out. They will thank you for it later in life. Go and enjoy yourself, he's the one that's lost out. You have the chance of a new and better beginning, go out and find it. Take care, am thinking of you.