I feel like leaving my hubby..?

Question

Yes, to many visiting porno sites is no big issue but i cant help feeling its a disgusting act. I am married, i have a son yet i still have guys wooing me. he knows it all but why he doesnt treasure me? I am tempted to leave him sum times but as a conservative me, i feel im cant n am stucked! Wats best for me to do?

If i want to leave cause other men are hitting on me, I would have done tat 3 yrs ago n not wait till now! Im not a quitter too! I just wanna do something right for myself n my baby... tats all. All i m now is a disappointed wife with a sickly baby!

Im 25 n to me, moving on to a new life is definitely not a big problem but wat abt my son? how can i bear to give my son a broken family? yes, i'd sat to talk it out w him n told him how i feel but guess wat? He left quietly n slept in the guestrm. Our sex life... i dunno if its ok but we have it almost everyday unless i have my period. But recently, after the incident, i totally stopped having sex w him cos i was hurt n disgusted. We made the marriage vow to the Lord 5 yrs back n there n then, i've only him in my heart no matter how other guys try to win me over! I just wan my hubby to treat me like how i've treated him like a gem... M i too greedy to even ask for this?

I cant bear to leave him actually.. we knew each other since 14 yr old n i've given myself to him. Even if i can leave him, i wont be able to give my son a father cos i cant imagine another man touching me! I really feel so depressed....

Answer 1

First of all, you are not a quitter. 2nd of all, I understand only too well how you can feel stuck.

You need to determine what is best for your son, and you. Is this what you want your son to learn for marriage skills? Is he a good father (and judging by other questions, that may be questionable.)

I don't have an easy answer, but do some research, make sure you are prepared before you leave. Have your ducks in a row, and when it happens (and I think it will), try your best to convince him that both of your primary concerns is to make this as easy as possible on your son.
Good Luck

Answer 2

I have so much empathy for you and can understand how you feel. First to answer about the porn sites. Has there been any infiditely? If not and your husband is just looking at the porn sites, it could just be a fanasty thing. If you are a new mother you have to understand that in a way your husband feels like he lost a part of you that once reminded him of those sexy women on the porn sites. You are a new mom and you sound like you have much dedication to your son (wonderful) and you sound like a great mom! First and formost I would continue my dedication to my child ( most important), but I would also remind myself that my husband also fell in love with me as I once was. You have to put some time into yourself, to take care of yourself and have some quality time with your husband also. Life with your spouse shouldn't stop when you have a child. Be a great mom but also become that sexy thing again that he feel in love with! You can have it all. Let him know that he is also number 1 in your life. Don't forget COMMUNICATION, ALSO. Dont spend the rest of your life with things bottled up in side of you cause it will only lead to diaster down the road. Have some fun with your husband. Play with him, laugh with him, make love with him, and have sex with him. (there is a difference) I was always looking to make love to my husband, and always felt hurt because most time I didn't feel that lovey, lovey, comfy feeling. Now with my kids as teenagers I look to have SEX with my husband, (and I love it!). Oh and by the way when we do make love, I now feel that lovey, comfy feeling. Start having great sex with your husband and you will see how much he treasures you.

Answer 3

You only want to leave cause other men are hitting on you. You are extremely selfish, and people like you are the main reason why marriages are a joke today. All you are is a quitter, who obviously thinks marriage is just something you can throw away like a piece of trash. Unbelievable.

Answer 4

I have followed your questions all morning, and it's obvious that you are very distraught over the whole porn thing, plus your son being sick, and also,you feeling worthless as a wife to him. You need to step away from this marriage, and look at it objectively. Personally, I think the marriage is over, and you need to concentrate on getting out of it with the least amount of hurt. He's not going to change, and you deserve better! Good Luck!!

Answer 5

No man who loves his wife needs to do porn.

That is a huge problem. How to fix it? Good question. I believe that some people are addicted to porn. He might be. If he did this prior to you, addicted.

You need to do what is best for you. You do have a son and thus both of you would have input on what type of person he will be when he grows up.

You can get another guy. But before you do anything, talk to him. If he refuses to change, try to make him change for himself. If that fails, there are plenty of guys who would love to be with you.

Good Luck

Answer 6

be careful of sinking into a depression.

have a good talk with your husband and share how you feel. Starts with the common facts like both of you still LOVE each other and want the MARRIAGE to WORK!

Seek councilling's help is the talk ended into an argument.

don't quit until you have explored all options to save your marriage, do it for your sake and for the sake of your baby.

Answer 7

I don't know what is your age. If you can get married with this guy it shows that you must have love him. Otherwise why both of you get married.

I think you are very confused at this moment. It would be good if you can cool down and think over wat you want for your future and what is best for your child.

At times, what seems to be the best move may end up as one of the worst. So advice you to think over carefully before making any decision.

Answer 8

whats up, i'm able to no longer help yet sense that you look to have all the solutions to justify why you want to go away him already. and that i do not doubt that you've finished all you could to assist him, help himself and the nuclear relations. possibly your guilt stems from the very undeniable actuality that you're a being concerned individual who would typically do each little thing and something obtainable to make it ensue - and on your case, the marriage deal is not any longer happening.. and also you're dealing with a useless-end? possibly leaving him is the perfect component you want to do to assist him awaken to his usual jobs... besides the undeniable fact that please be extremely extremely optimistic of the best result and reactions from this decision that you're making. Seeing a counsellor might want to help or maybe only refer to a bunch of your closest acquaintances only to communicate out what it really is strictly that you want. i'd be incorrect the following, yet I sense that it's not guilt that you're feeling from the alternative to go away him, yet what you sense is desperation might want to your decision backfires and on the best of it, you'll finally end up on my own.

Answer 9

Hi,

Firstly you should be firm, if you want to leave him, secondly kids should be given to him, third you should be able to survive when you file divorce till the time you get married again...

Whats your age ??? Secondly once filed you should not opt for patch up coz it does not work.

Answer 10

Talk to your hubby about this,if he's willing to discuss it and resolve it and it means enough,work through it,if not by all means give him the option for him to leave or your going to leave,but stick to it whatever the decision.