Some of my friends are hinting to me that the way they see my hubby treats me. They are quite worried esp when i was sick n stayed with my son all the way when my son was hospitalised for a week n my hubby claimed he's busy with work, that he cant come over n had to stay home to do his projects. In the end, when i reached home, i saw the websites he visited r infested with porno sites! I feel so hurt, cheated, angry n disgusted! If he's got time, why not surf the net on how to cure his son's illnesses?!!
2006-06-29 23:17:45 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If i found porn sites AND health resource sites....on the internet history....YES! I'd have felt much better? at least i know he's still concern abt his son who's lying in the hospital though he cant find time to visit him!
2006-06-29 23:37:10 · update #1
my son is his very own son too!
2006-06-29 23:40:37 · update #2
I think he's self-focused. I wouldn't be so worried that it was porn, would you feel less abandoned if all the sites were sports? But, the fact that you needed him, and he would rather stay away than do what needed to be done for your child shows a very self-centered, unsympathetic action.
Do you have other examples? Do you know if this is the usual response, or if this is unexpected?
My advice is to talk to him, not with accusation, but just tell him you needed him and you feel hung out to dry. You are hurt, angry.
Stay always in your own reactions, not putting him on the defensive or assigning motive to him, ask his motive because you are hurt.
Good luck
2006-06-29 23:27:24 · answer #1 · answered by Arlene06 4 · 12⤊ 2⤋
There is absolutely no excuse for a father not to go to the hospital to see his sick son, how pathetic is that!!...sounds like a pervert to me, anyway, since he would rather spend time on porn sites instead of spending the time with his sick son....apparently there's more to it than that since your friends are hinting to you about the way he treats you..I say leave him or kick him out or let him stay and make HIS life miserable!!!...
2006-06-30 07:26:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people deal with stress differently...
I'm not saying he was right, because you make an excellent point that if he had time to search porn sites...why couldn't he have also searched for a "cure" ... but that begs the question...
If you found porn sites AND health resource sites....on the internet history....would you have felt better?
2006-06-30 06:25:51 · answer #3 · answered by Warrior 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds selfish to me. My husband was like that in the beginning. But I kept telling him how it was effecting me and our kids. It didn't really hit him until one of my older step kids laid it out for him. Told him that they loved and respected me more than they ever would him. Made him feel terrible. Now he steps up to the plate more and has become a better father for it. Something profound has to happen to him to make him realize what he is doing. If it doesn't than he isn't worth keeping around. You will end up being a married single parent. And believe me it isn't any fun. Good Luck.
2006-06-30 06:29:47 · answer #4 · answered by Carrie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your husband is a very good one. He should have been at the hospital with you, if for no other reason, for moral support. I gather the child is not his, but he still should have been there with you. You have every right to be upset, and as soon as your child gets better, I would seriously think about your next move in this marriage.......moving out, that is! Good Luck!!
2006-06-30 06:26:45 · answer #5 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No decent husband would be to busy to spend time with their sick child in the hospital. Sounds to me like he isn't a good father or husband. I would let him know how you feel about his behavior. And take it from their.
2006-06-30 06:25:08 · answer #6 · answered by brighteyes62301 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
install a porn filter software like NetDog on the computer,that help you to block all porn websites in the background when he's surfing on the internet. http://www.netdogsoft.com
2006-06-30 13:37:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously doesn't respect you enough to make you the focus of his attentions and would rather escape to a fantasy world.
2006-06-30 06:24:36 · answer #8 · answered by uncs_misguidedchild 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know what i would do but why the hell is he so self obsesed.
i'd kick him out if i were you. but then again im not you, so i cant help you out.
you have to weigh the pros and cons before taking action. but please hurry befroe he totally starts treating you like a doormat.
2006-06-30 06:24:40 · answer #9 · answered by G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very angry...Its time for a serious talk with him...change or get the hell out of your life.
2006-06-30 06:25:13 · answer #10 · answered by Island Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋