why is so hard.....?

Question

why is so hard to find a friend in who u can trust?because everyone is such a hypocrite?or why...?

Answer 1

it's not you just have to know if you can trust them but all my friends can trust me no lie because i am loyal trustworthy n any1 that says sumfin to them or hurts they don't get away wit it coz i stik wit them thruogh anything they tell me everything they just trust me i am a really good best friend so if you need a friend istant message me / im 15 from australia n plu im not a hypocrite i hate them they piss me off

Answer 2

hoo boy. this is a hard one to answer and that is because: A)everyone has a different way of thinking and, therefore, a different way of acting. B)being able to trust someone, no matter who, can be really hard.
it can take a while to find someone to spill your guts to. everyone, well lots of people but not everyone, is wrapped up in their own issues and feels the need to just talk to someone and get good helpful words in response. sometimes that means no words and just a hug. also, deciding to trust someone is difficult. are they trustworthy?will they blab?and then actually opening up to someone can be even more difficult. you want to make sure you really would be doing the right thing and not getting in too deep over your head...stuff like that. especially if you have been betrayed or back-stabbed before. you have fear of it happening again and you really would like to avoid that. i think the only thing to do is have patience. for the time being, try writing and then keep looking, but don't trust until you're sure that the person will listen and not blab or back-stab or betray. trust is a difficult matter, but everyone needs someone to trust, otherwise emotions get bottled up. after a while, pen and paper don't do it all anymore and you need something more, someone. so just make sure you don't trust the wrong person.

Answer 3

The people we call our friends are generally a reflection of ourselves. . To have friends you can trust ,you must be a friend that can be trusted. Do not repeat or listen to gossip,do not betray a friends confidence. Be there when needed and disappear when they need privacy or time for their loved ones. Do not lean too hard on a friend for if your problems become too heavy they can become a burden, instead both must hold each other up. If all fails then you have done your best. Take heart for you can and will learn that you can be a good friend to yourself.Peace to you

Answer 4

Flowing Thoughtfulness

When one person is thoughtful to another, the thoughtfulness gets carried on and on.
It is like a river of kindness, once blocked by rocks,
That is suddenly opened by a single person's kind thought or act.
The river runs freely again, and continues to flow,
Moving more rocks and reaching the hearts of others.
When one person is thoughtful to another the thoughtfulness gets carried on and on.
The more we get together and help each other,
The more friendship there can be throughout many different places.
The friendship can begin like a small stream in a single neighborhood.
And then expand throughout a river of districts, states, countries, and even continents.
When one person is thoughtful to another, the thoughtfulness gets carried on and on.
Soon, we could have a whole ocean of friendships, and that's how the world was created
And how it should always be.

Mattie J.T. Stepanek
1990-2004)
If your friends treat you badly, try to understand why and then tell them to go to hell. The world is large and there are many people who you may meet and become close friends with. Open up the opportunity to meet- meet- meet -many- many people and your chances grow with every friendly face you smile back to.
When you find it try to make the above thought true. It would make the world a brighter place.

Answer 5

If you have just one true friend; you are very rich, indeed. I have many different friends for different reasons; and I like them for the shared interests we have in common...but someone who represents the total package will probably be your soul mate or future "significant other". Don't confuse an acquaintance for friendship...and I agree...sometimes it is hard to know who to trust. Trust is a sensitive area and unless you can trust yourself to know the difference; then maybe it just means you still have some internal growing to do. Trust must be earned...and that takes time.

Answer 6

It is hard, because people are only human, they are not perfect. A true friend will love you when you're down and out and having nothing emotionally, physically, or spiritually to give back except yourself.

There is what they call the golden rule: "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." So basically, in order to have a friend you have to be a friend. That takes TIME. Having friends gets harder as time goes on because they have more opportunity to mess up and the more you have to forgive them for as your relationship grows. Looking past things is harder for some people than others and trusting too, especially if you've been hurt in the past.

My best friend is God because he never lets me down. He's always there when I need him. He loves me unconditionally, which is cool.

Answer 7

I think there is a big difference between having friends and having associates. I have very few people I would call friends but I can trust them. Associates are people I may interact with but I don't have trust in them. You have to take the time to get to know people before you let them become close to you. This is a good way to establish boundaries and very healthy to begin a possible friendship. Take your time and enjoy getting to know others and yourself!

Answer 8

An enemy you know will harm you, but keep your friends close because their the ones to stab you in the back. Sounds cliche, but It's because we tell our friends our secrets and sometimes we shouldn't. Some people out there just are not good and we don't take the time to really get to know them before we blab our stuff to them. Really good friends are rare and have hearts of gold those are the ones you need to find.

Answer 9

Did you know that by the time you die you shouldn't be able to count on more than one hand the amount of true friends you have. If you continue to have problems finding true friends maybe it is yourself that is having the issues in choosing these friends. Maybe you should self-evaluate before you start striving for something unecessary.

I have two really good friends for over 12 years. I don't see the need to surround myself with as many "friends" as possible.

Answer 10

I got friends and plenty of them. Some I trust more than others but a little word of advise: never ever trust anyone but yourself.