Am I a bad girl ????

Question

okay, here is my problem:
i had sex with my boy f for several times, and we love each other. Recently, I wanted to test his love, so I took a plan: one month ago, I told him that I was pregant ( in fact, I was not).
Unfortunately, he found out that I cheat him about my pregnancy, but he still said nothing about it.
I know he is angry about it. I really love him and don't want to lose him. WHAT SHOULD I DO NOW?

Answer 1

Be honest from now on. YOU were wrong!!!

Answer 2

You shouldn't test him in the first place. Pregnancy lie is a very serious and not funny at all prank.

If you really do love him, you shouldn't test him at all. Just apologize sincerely to him and tell him how you really feel and what was your initial plan - to test him.

He might be mad at you and doesn't want to forgive you, but don't give up in apologizing to him, otherwise you won't get the same dick from him no more in your life.

All the best!

Answer 3

You are not a bad girl, although you are a little misguided. Trust is one of the basic cornerstones of a good loving relationship, and you broke that trust by lying to him about something like pregnancy,which is a very life altering situation. You should apologize to him and promise never to do anything like that again. Ask yourself why you would do something like that? Love is not something you "test" in your mate. You either have it or you don't, and I don't know of a better way to drive someone away, than by lying about being pregnant.

Answer 4

Make a promise to him and yourself, that you will never play games with his feelings again. This is a relationship not a game, You do not realize what stress this must have put on him, the sleepless nights, the worry of how he was going to afford to have a baby, and a wife, the thought of how his parents and yours would be angry at him....

That was a mean thing to do, the least you could do is apologize and make that promise.

Answer 5

Well, in answer to your first question; Yes, but there's hope. In regards to the 'Big One' there at the end, I think the best thing you can do would be open up, answer any questions he may have, and make sure that you two are supposed to be together without resorting to drastic measures - such as faking pregnancy. If he loves you, he will understand. If he's just in it for the poon, you'll know.

Answer 6

you decided to test his honesty in the relationship by being dishonest to him & about something most people would never think to lie about!
what part of that plan sounds like a winner?
it is disfunctional to think that you have to test your man to see how much he loves you. that comes from a place of great insecurity. (being with you when you're this way may be a test in itself. ever thought about that?)
bad plan, bad decision, bad consequences.
you stabbed the soul of your relationship, wounded it & its still bleeding! and you want help healing the gash? should of thought of that sooner! (and why didn't you? or did you & ignore it?)
you have shown your boyfriend that if you want something bad enough, you will decieve, distort, and destroy! you took the relationship to a new, different, hurtful level.
its obvious you know how to do damage. you're going to have to learn about healing. good luck.

Answer 7

first thing u were wrong. do not hesitate. go n speak with him, make an apology with TEARS. i m a guy so i know the psycology of guys. tears will work.
but u have to make a promise with urself that u'll not repeat those mistakes.

u wrote u love each other very much, so there is nothing to test where as i think.

Answer 8

Well, I don't think you're a bad girl. I think you did what you had to do. Sure, it was a mean thing to do... but how would you have known about his love for you otherwise?

Try and talk to him. Tell him why you did it. Tell him that you wanted to know if he really loved you or not. I can guarantee that he won't understand what you're saying... so tell him, "it's something women have had to face for a long time; we need to know if we're loved... because if our relationships are all about sex... we lose the sight of what love is."

I'm not being sexist, here; it's true. Women tend to think emotionally and men tend to think logically. If a man has his sights set out on what love is... he'll rarely challenge or question it. But women have to constantly remind themselves of the bind of love. Since emotions can get really complicated, the illusion of love can disappear... even though it's been there all along.

If you really love him... tell him you love him. Do it romantically. Whisper it into his ear when cuddling... but mean it. Love should be emotional. It should NEVER be something used recreationally. Don't ever say, "I fuc*ing love you," and expect it to warm his heart. Don't say, "I love you" when you're in the moment of hard-core sex, either. You might think that this is bad advice... but it isn't. During sex, there's only one thing on both of your minds... (usually) you think, "let's finish together." If you say "I love you" during passionate, close-knit, MELTING love-making... it's fine. But if you're just having sex... it's not a good thing to tell him that you love him, because it'll seem really superficial.

If you cuddle, tickle, neck, and kiss... and whisper lovingly into his ear that you love him... he'll melt like a bar of chocolate in your hands. He'll be all yours. But be honest with him. You have to let him know why you did such a thing. All that's on his mind NOW is: how dare you lie to me, you stupid b*tch?! Whatever... I'm not going to say anything... You'll get the same treatment one day. I don't understand you!!

Once you let him know why you did such a thing... he'll think: Wow. You really do love me. Come here, baby. I want to hug you.

But remember... when testing to see if a guy really loves you... lying about pregnancy is really risky. If you're not careful... he might leave you. Be honest with him and you'll both work out. :-)

BTW: In regards to some past, childish comments... what you did wasn't wrong. It wasn't stupid or "F'd up" or anything else. You're not a "headcase," either. You were only misguided and you didn't know how to find out about his love for you in any other way. So don't read too much into the hatred that usually spews out from this website. If you only look for ways to better yourself as a human being... you'll get far in life. Don't sit there and put yourself down. The put-downs here are just words... They're not meant to better you... but to keep you down. Stand up and fly. Learn how to make yourself better. But in the mean time... you know what to do. :-)

Answer 9

That was a pretty stupid thing to do, if he stayed with you it may have been due to his expectancy of a baby and being a father or for 'honour' and nothing at all to do with YOU. Also not even looking ahead of the consequences of your actions pretty much shows that he should dump you.

Answer 10

Tell him the truth. tell him you wanted to test his love and chose the wrong way to do it instead of trusting in the relationship. Tell him you are sorry and hope he will forgive you because you love him very much and will talk about this stuff next time.

Answer 11

okay... what you did lying to him was really, really wrong and we can't deny that what you did is sorta bad in some ways... but i think it's not that bad because you have your good intentions. apologize to him and tell him the reason why you lied/cheated on him... of course he'll be mad, but if he really loves you, then he'll get over it... just make sure that whenever you wanted to test your boyfriend's love on you, be sure not to make things complicated like this one.