Anyone been falsely accused of abuse of their child, proven untrue, yet still forced to vacate the home?

Question

Child Protection Svs. knows, by my 16 yr old's own admission that the complaint they were investigating had no merit, but came back again, and then a **3rd time** and accused me of "emotional abuse" because I drink alcohol. My daughter doesn't want me to drink (I am NOT an abusive person, drinking or not, and a member of AA since 1988), because she doesn't think it's "fair" that she entered rehab for drug problems and I still drink. That's a short version of the story that still continues. Bottom line is that I was forced out of *my* home and threatened with repurcussions if I didn't enter rehab. I'm currently not allowed to be in my house when my daughter is there, though I've never been given any documentation that says so. (Her mother lives there too but we were never married and split up years ago. I invited them to stay with me so that my kid could have some stability, a sense of family, and that's another story.) Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

Answer 1

If you have been a member of AA since 1988, and you still imbibe, then you and your sponsor have not done a good job (I'm assuming you have a sponsor) get a new sponsor to work for that lasting sobriety.

Now your daughter doesn't realize that AA is a form of rehab. Maybe explain to her that their is AA for drug addicts too and that you both could go to open meetings together and help each other.

First, I think the actions you described by Child Protection smacks of Nazism.

But I offer a rhetorical question. When you are drinking, are you aware of everything you've done? Are you in full control of yourself or does your personality change?

The one advantage of drinking now is that you can get a second opinion from a sponsor on if your personality changes. I don't think you are aware what lengths a good sponsor will go to help you. Yes, when you come to AA meetings, you must be sober. However, the BIG BOOK of AA states case after case of sponsors going above the call of duty..some even giving a sponsor time to sober up in their house. The analogy is like "it's hard to find a good friend" and so "it can be hard to find a good sponsor too." But they are out there.

Avoid making this a case of she says...he says. Worry less about the facts, less about your daughter. Concentrate on fixing yourself first, then you can be reunited with your daughter.

Amen

Answer 2

Drinking is an illness and it affects the people around you whether you can see it or not. Unless you have documentation then there is nothing stopping you from being in your own house. It's YOUR house and they have no legal rights to keep you out of it. You need to serve the mother with eviction papers(two weeks written notice) and go from there. Good luck and if the stuff continues, get a lawyer.

Answer 3

HMMMMMMMMM.Drugs and alcohol,Rehab and AA.These are things that the CPS services look down on.If I were you,I would move to a dry county,Get a good job and get a lawyer that could tell you your rights and help you get them back.Become a family again and never step foot around a wet county or alcohol ever again.Once they use this against you,They can come in at any time and will always bring this up and use it against you.

Good luck,I will pray for you and I hope you get your children back.

Answer 4

Yes, you are not alone on this one. I have had seven beautiful children and they were my life. I went to divorce my abusive ex husband and he told DHHS a lot of b/s. After four years of court {proving I was the capable one} I fell and broke my back at work. As soon as I got out of the hospital /i found out the judge granted him custody of my babies. He now lives fourteen hours away and I have not seen my children in over 4 years...this happens to people everyday, you're not alone.

Answer 5

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