ladies only, how do you handle this?

Question

my husband and I fight about 2-3 times a month, real fight, usually when I have PMS, I have serious PMS and have asked him to be supportive during this time, but he just ignore my feeling, like when I have pain and very tired need to sleep, he still wants to watch TV, I can't sleep with the TV on, after ask him four times, we begin the fight, he gave me cold shoulder and I lost my temper. things like that, I don't like the fighting, but it seems I always lost my temper when I have PMS, ladies, how do you handle this? do you fight more when you have PMS? how to control it?

Answer 1

Most women I know that have PMS and fight, fight even better with guns and knives, especially on a bad hair day. Now the
ones that work at the post office- THOSE- you've really got to watch out for.

Answer 2

I definitely become more irritable, impatient and fight more around "that time." If you think PMS is a serious problem for you, see your doctor. There are medications that will help. i think they are basically antidepressants, I think one is called Seraphim. I knew a lady that had this problem and the meds really helped her. You also need to evaluate whether you are not just using the PMS as an excuse and your behavior is a symptom of deeper relationship issues. The TV thing doesn't seem like a big deal to me--you can try getting him some of those headphones so you don't hear it and use a sleep mask to block the light.

Answer 3

PMS can be treated and I honestly feel he should be upset .He allows you to relax , try to sleep and stays away watching TV and your mad enough to get up and fight ? Throw a pillow over your ears or Medicine to help you fall asleep.He's not a child and he is in his home as well ,the behavior can be controlled . Taking out your pain on others and PMS isn't 2-3 a month so why are you fighting so much the other times ? I couldn't stay married like that .So I'd leave that's how I'd handle abuse !

Answer 4

Obviously you cant make your husband a little more considerate so you have to find ways .
Why not take as much sleep as you can during the day when he is away for work . Consult your gyneac for pain killer . I guess you also need to take care of your diet and water intake . Check out on your calcium intake & dont do all the work by yourself . Get help or just ignore it . Dont take the load .
Last but not the least , next time when your husband is not well (God forbid ), take very-very good care of him. He will realize what he has been doing to you & we can just hope that he will be emotionally available from then on .
Take care

Answer 5

you control PMS with Midol. It really works wonders. I try to stay away from any type of pain relievers, but Midol has saved my relationship many times. Before I discovered over the counter pms medicine, to controll my temper, whenever I got angry, I would just go take a hot bath. I always came out of the bathroom relaxed..........and ready to apologize for my bad attitude. This would also help me sleep. Maybe it will work for you.

Answer 6

move the TV to your living room or just sleep at the living room, if he dont listen to you,then ignore him, after that if he saw you sleeping outside then he will consider i guess. my hubby is a couch potato but once i ignore him and show him that im serious that im not feeling well, he will respect me and even give me a massage my legs. dont nag at him and dont fight with him with just that reason. because if you do so, they will just think that its just part of your being brat and part of PMS (so they think that if you have PMS-you are hot tempered and always nag about the TV stuff and he will think its just normal)so if that's the case, part of his mind will just think that after few days you will be ok. and one thing to control your temper?be thankful that your husband is at home not at the bars or with anybody else

Answer 7

Ok, first things first. Calm down. Think happy thoughts. Think about the good times you two have together. Think about how much he loves you and how much you love him. Don't think about what he doesn't do to treat you right, but think about what he does do. You could also do something that'll calm your nerves, like excuse yourself to get a breath of air, drink some water, or wash your face. It always works for me, and I hope it'll work for you also. This is all from experience. I'm currently only 15 years old, and for a while my boyfriend and I couldn't last at least 3 days long without arguing about something, even if it was over something small. Now, I know how to calm down. (I had the calming down problems, not he.)

Just expect the worst, and hope for the best.

Answer 8

The best thing to do is to learn how to stay calm. Eat less sugar because that also increases pms period. Do more exercise that will ease the pain. I think your husband just does that to irritate you and during pms your irritation level is extremely high.

Answer 9

I am a boy. But I understand you hav no mistaks; unfortunately, he hardly understand you. this guy is *******.g irresponsible

You lost temper not due to your cramp but you need company. Tell him when he feel good.

You can try to find a quiet place for yourself when you got cramp.

Lady is a symbol of strong nature. So why you need warm shoulder while he doesn't even care. You must be strong yourself in order to prepare yourself.

Answer 10

I know of some women that have to take antidepressants while they're pmsing. Your hormone levels get so high that you can't control yourself! Talk to your doctor and see what they say. Good luck.