How to gain confidence in my young adult years, when I've been so shy since childhood years?

Question

I need help with confidence and self-confidence. When I talk to people on Messengers, I'm not so shy, compared to talking to them in person. Please help me.

Answer 1

First of all never think that you are shy......secondly ask a question to yourself why is it that on messenger ur ok and otherwise shy? Read news papers and upgrade informations so that u will feel that you have knowledge and so you can express your self. At the end, tell your self that I m not at all a shy person, and I cant talk well and express my self........and move with conficence.

Answer 2

I am the same way and use to be very shy to where I wouldn't even get on messanger...It took sometime to be comfortable with myself and realize what other people thought of me didn't matter..They aren't living my life or paying my bills so why should I care what they think...When you can look at yourself in the mirror and say "I like/love you" then and only then will things change...Nobody can do it for you the confidence you need has to come from within.. GOOD LUCK

Answer 3

The only solution I can think of is that you find a job or start volunteering in some nonprofit organization where you have to work with people... It may be hard at first, but every time you feel like running away, start thinking about your job and people that work with you - so you don't let them down... After a while things will get easier and you'll find new friends...

Answer 4

You need to change your attitude and that is something only you can do. Try and become more outgoing and set goals where you will engage people in conversation that you would otherwise not. And remember you are who you present yourself to be.

Answer 5

Just make a fool out of youself, don't worry, if you don't get use to it, they do. Get out of your shell, be happy.