at times you feel like using the stick.....
2006-06-29 20:36:52 · 15 answers · asked by relaxplease2005 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you shouldn't do that. you will end up turning him/her against you. that's my opinion. parents are parents but they shouldn't do that. it's wrong. try talking as a good friend a more mature, understanding but let them know that they have done something that has disappointed you. children should respect you and fell really bad when doing something wrong not to fear you or worse fear you, that's the worse kind of feeling that a child can have for his parent. show support and be there for him/her try to help them out not put them down. try to help by giving the child a push in the right direction, meaning help him/her do something to repair things and realize what they did wrong. good luck and patience.
2006-06-29 20:46:03 · answer #1 · answered by placintzica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think they're many other ways to discipline a child..a child isnt going to listen to what you say..but they watch u..or they are watching you most of the time..sometiems you have to lead as an example..your child is going to say my moms doing it or my dads doing it so why cant i do it..be a leader..be someone your child can look up to..if they are doing things that are because of behaivor that has nothing to do with that..they just do it because they are children so you just have to let them be children sometimes..but you should tell them what they are doing wrong..sit them down and talk to them..tell this its not okay..tell them its unnacceptable and that you wont tolerate them..punish them if they do it again..take the tv away..or there favorite game..or there favorite toy..then say you're not going to get it back until you learn how to act..hiting them is not the right way of doing things and getting a stick thats abuse..i know you are upset..mad..or maybe beyond that maybe you're pissed off but you dont want to hurt your child ebcause if you take your frustrations off on the child you could be sitting in jail and your child could be with foster care and you dont want it to lead to that..if you are upset tell the child go into the other room and when you calmed down tell your child there behavor is unnacceptable..do these things first..please let abuse and hitting them be the very last resort...and if u want to use the stick or your fist or anyhitng thats not teaching the child anything or any kind of behaivor or teaching him right from wrong..thats unnacceptable on your part..hope i helped! good luck!
2006-06-29 20:52:43 · answer #2 · answered by Calendar_Model 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would usually say no.
The only time I ever feel it might be appropriate to swat (not slap) a child is if they are being disobedient. Disobedience is a safety issue.
Best wishes and God bless.
2006-06-29 20:39:54 · answer #3 · answered by bobhayes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to remember that children are future adults. And children can remember how they were treated, when they become adults.
If you want your child to respect and love you in your old age, then you have to treat him or her with respect and love now.
Punishment should be only a small part of a mostly positive and loving relationship with your child. Or else you are not going to have much of a relationship with this child, after he or she grows up.
I've seen some adult children get back at their elderly parents for mistreating them when they were young. And it isn't pretty.
2006-06-29 20:55:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then you messed up if you got to the point of feeling the need to hit the child or you are just a mean person.
2006-06-29 20:41:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
one million. Spanking with hand - beneficial 2. speedy slap on arm - beneficial 3. Belt - NO extremely HARSH 4. Punching - NO by way of no ability 5. Pulling hair - NO by way of no ability 6. Smacking with merchandise e.g. e book - in all probability
2016-12-14 03:05:25 · answer #6 · answered by ritacco 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. My opinion is that you should make "slapping" and the "stick" a VERY VERY bad thing.
Make them "fear" it. Haha, and when they do something extremely bad, but only if it is really really bad, then you have to use "it."
But if you use it too often, then that might be taking discipline too far.
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2006-06-29 20:46:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you never slap a child.I raise 3 daughters by my self and id never even consider that.Theres to many other ways to deal with that.
2006-06-29 20:48:38 · answer #8 · answered by MidwestDad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slap on the face? Don't do that please. You have to talk to your child first. If your child does something wrong, talk to him first, if he or she repeats her mistake, forgive him for the second time, if its the third time, you can slap him or her.
2006-06-29 20:41:34 · answer #9 · answered by Oddon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely no.. it is very bad to his self-steem and ego progress...
you can discipline him/her in any other way.. like not talking to him for 2 hours.. also don't say i will not bring chocolate cuz you didn't do this.. it is his/her right to bring him/her what he/she needs.. so it is not an advantage.. and if you did so this will make him mean to you.. and greedy afterward
if you want to cause physical discipline, it is enough to slap his hands' back..
2006-06-29 21:09:25 · answer #10 · answered by helix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋