Why does my mum drink?

Question

why does my mum drink? Is their a solution such as tough love for an alcoholic?

Answer 1

Goodness gracious, there's so many possibilities as to why a person would become an alcoholic. Most people use alcohol (and other drugs) as an escape from something, such as hardships, stress, insecurities, etc. Perhaps your mother is suffering with something that she wants to escape from or doesn't want to deal with directly. Alcohol also gives the body a physical feeling of pleasure, but at the same time it can make you feel like UGH. That feeling of pleasure is the escape and that can get you hooked.

Of course, I have never heard of alcohol helping with any sort of life problems except for disinfecting scrapes and wounds (and must I add in one of the most painful ways EVER! Peroxide does a better job, but I'm getting off the point!).

Until your mother herself realizes that her drinking is a problem, I don't think she will fully recover from alcoholism. Try to look up some information from organizations such as Alcoholics Anonymous (AA). Whatever you do, don't give up on your mother! She's your mother!!!! Support her as much as you can while at the same time, achieving your own dreams (a huge inspiration for any parent!). For your mother to have hope, you also must have hope in her and yourself.

P.S. - If your mother is an alcoholic, that also means that YOU have a high chance of being an alcoholic as well (ah, genetics..), so please do not drink! :)

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Answer 2

Mums drink for many reasons. It's hard work being a mum and having the responsibility of bringing up another human being. Does she have a partner? Maybe things are not going to well with that. If she doesn't have a partner, then maybe she is finding the responsibility too much for her - having to do all the work, have all the worry, make ends meet financially etc etc.

Maybe you could try and help her a bit. Maybe you could try talking to her, lovingly, and telling her how much her drinking is upsetting you. Maybe you could speak to your mum's mum, or other family and tell them how worried you are. There are organisations available for the relatives of alcoholics, which you could probably find on the internet.

But maybe she's not an alcohlic at all, just drinking a bit too much at the moment because she's unhappy in some way.

Whatever you decide to do, I wish you luck.

Answer 3

I'm sorry, but you cant really do anything about it...its a lifestyle that she chooses to follow. I know that it might hurt you, but try to avoid talking to her or even getting close to her. If there is another family member near, maybe you can talk to them and let them know about your mom, they might be more than willing to help.

Answer 4

Sorry, your mom has to want to change. That goes for any type of addict, you can't help them if they don't want to help themselves.