Everytime when i told him some guys r tryin 2 woo me even though i got a bf, he wont even feel jealous. He wil just say, "they shld jux take a mirror n look at themselves" Is this an act of confident or he doesnt love me? And even if we seldom meet, he doesnt seems to miss me at all. My bf is the sort whu seldom say sweet nothings and do romantic stuffs.
2006-06-29 20:31:22 · 6 answers · asked by Star_Fairy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
is the romance still there at all?
2006-06-30 15:08:41 · answer #1 · answered by tankee531 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He sounds very healthy. And he may be interpreting your telling him about these other guys as an attempt to bait him - in which case he has evidently decided he is not going to take that bait.
And he's very right, the guys in question are not even respecting themselves and their own conscience, much less you or him. And he is very right not to take that as reducing his personal value in any way.
It sounds like he is trusting God (or whatever the equivalent is in his belief system) for the future of your relationship.
And he is not thinking that he 'can't live without you' - so that if he loves you, it is a true choice on his part and not because his hormones are making him do it.
It sounds like he 'has a life' - so he has work, school, friends, hobbies, etc. to keep him occupied so that he doesn't feel empty just because you're not there. He is probably thinking about what he has rather than what he doesn't have at any given moment.
And he sounds like he is behaving honorably by not acting lovey-dovey with you when you are not ready to be married.
You might want to ask yourself the following:
Why do you need to tell your bf about these other guys? Are you in fact baiting your him? Does he ever mention other girls?
Does he normally behave honorably? Does he have good self-esteem (but without being conceited)?
Is he faithful to you when you're not around? (If he is, treat that as a very good sign).
Why are you guys meeting with that particular frequency? (I mean, if you live far away, or both of you have demanding jobs, or something like that, it's normal that you wouldn't meet very often).
Does he have any religious beliefs about things like attachment or purity? Does he, for example, view any kind of greed ('I have to have it') as idolatry?
Do you ever hear him complain about what he doesn't have, or does he seem to be always assuming that life is satisfactory, regardless of the circumstances?
And while we're on the subject, you seem to be focusing on what he isn't doing. Might be good to focus on what he *is* doing... What *does* happen when you spend time together?
2006-06-29 21:14:29 · answer #2 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if he trusts you and doesn't feel insecure. That is a great thing. Do you really want someone freaking out everytime someone says something to you? He knows he has a good thing and has nothing to worry about. Good luck. Also, maybe he doesn't know how to express himself... missing you, ect... some guys are just that way.
2006-06-29 20:42:41 · answer #3 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He trusts you and doesnt want to be obssesive over you or turn into a control freak.Tell him less about other guys who try to woo you and observe his reaction.He may not be able to say how he feels but i guess he shows somehow that he misses you.
2006-06-29 21:01:57 · answer #4 · answered by Shosh-B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me know if u really want to make him jealous.
2006-06-29 23:26:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he trusts you.
2006-06-29 20:38:09 · answer #6 · answered by JJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋