2006-06-29 20:20:03 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Deal with the alcohol first and ignore the under-30 ignorant responses you'll get here.
Talk to a professional rehab counselor who can get help for your husband. Believe me, I have much experience in this field.
The alcohol is a response to his own self-hatred and anger and it will come out as misplaced and on you.
You must deal with this, this is the key. All of it is connected, but the professionals will tell you and so will I: The alcohol is never the problem: what makes a person want to drink is.
Being self-centered and unfaithful also spring from this.
Take action, don't wait, don't enable, don't make excuses, don't feel sorry for yourself. Just act.
Jeff
2006-06-29 20:27:20 · answer #1 · answered by filmjeff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you don't have a lot of affection left for him. Is there a reason you think the marriage is NOT over? Because just from that statement, it seems pretty obvious that you should leave. Self centered, unfaithful, and alcoholic could easily develop into abusive, if it hasn't already.
2006-06-29 20:23:19 · answer #2 · answered by smurfette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling is perfect right here. Alcoholics nameless (AA) is a corporation that became genuinely began by Christians. the problem is that he's addicted to the alcohol. which skill he will manage to rationalize his ingesting to himself inspite of how that is hurting others. you should imagine of him as having a sickness and he desires your help. to love others is to paintings for his or her desirable. And the finest for you husband is to be in heaven with his kin some day. today the alcohol is appearing as a barrier to a fuller courting with God and with his kin. in case you husband does no longer favor to modify then there is no longer a lot you may do except pray for him. He first has to comprehend that that is a topic. And counseling can help with that. you would possibly want to work out a counselor besides that can help you cope and to verify how desirable that can help you and your husband. a wedding ceremony counselor would also be a good theory. because alcohol is so addictive on your husband that is per chance desirable that he quits ingesting altogether. because anytime he has some it feeds into his habit. he's not fooling all people except himself.
2016-11-30 00:55:48 · answer #3 · answered by mccasland 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave. For any of the above reasons, but most especially for the unfaithful and alcholic part. Life's too short for stuff like that.
2006-06-29 20:27:56 · answer #4 · answered by dreamcatweaver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had an unfaithful husband and it tore me up to the point I wanted to die, I loved him so much I fininally made the choice to divorce, I still love him very much you can never change him either live with it or leave let no one make that choice for you please let your heart tell you what is right good luck
2006-06-29 21:00:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the dude. Life is tooooo short to put up with such bullsh@t!!!! Nothing is worth getting trampled on. Be strong pack his **** and get him the hell out.
You will be much happier with a guy that will be faithful and love you back. Wouldnt it be a sad life, to live like you dont mean it?
2006-06-29 20:25:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, give him one more chance to go to marriage counseling. This is probably the only way you can save your marriage. If he is not willing to go or does not change with counseling, I think the best thing to do is to leave. I'm all about second chances, but only if there is a second chance to be had.
2006-06-29 20:25:30 · answer #7 · answered by Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him out,and if's a difficult thing to make happen,pack up and leave,get a good lawyer,file for divorce,get your divorce and move on,find yourself in a better life and enjoy it,You deserve it.
2006-06-29 21:49:30 · answer #8 · answered by rosie w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady you need counseling. I mean would it actually be better if he were a caring, faithful, crackhead. He isn't the one with the problem, you are. He have no reasons to leave but you have plenty. So stop blaming all your problems with yourself on him.
2006-06-29 20:32:25 · answer #9 · answered by thementalpatient2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM!!!!!!!!!!! Get counseling to get the strength to leave and to get back your self-esteem and feelings of self-worth. He sure doesn't care about you, nor does he care about honoring you as a partner/wife. Don't sit around hoping he will change. These guys NEVER change. Trust me!
2006-06-29 20:25:03 · answer #10 · answered by dancing_queen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋