the reason is we nt been talking wif each other since feb,he use sms and reply me say 'it's best if we only communicate using sms'..we been married for 9 years and tts wat he do?i nt been working and studying since i been wif him so all $$ was giving by him.so nw tt we have been to this stage he wans me to even write dw the date and day and y i need to claim $$ from him.(coz there are times when i need to buy lunch or dinner for kids to eat)
he goes out when ever he wans or likes and juz throw the kids to me.if i wanna go out oso he would juz ask me to bring the kids back hm and ask my mum to look after the kids..(aren't the kids his oso?) wanna divorce bt when think of the kids i juz soften bt juz feel tt i shouldn't drag the matter any further..i even tried talking wif him to ask him slove the matter between us bt its of no use..is there anyone tt can give me some advise on hw i shld do?
2006-06-29 20:09:07 · 8 answers · asked by lemonsoblet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have to think of the kids and what they are seeing happen to you. They will learn that this is what a marriage/relationship should be like then they could end up going through what you are going through. If you have tried, and this guy isn't responding, he never will. You have to take care of yourself to stay strong and get happy again. Get out. You are worth more than this. So are your kids.
2006-06-29 20:18:16 · answer #1 · answered by dancing_queen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi,
According to me first whats your age and qualification. Think whether you can survive for some time till you get divorced even after filing the divorce. You should go for mutual consent so that you are not tortured else you will be just hanging around.
Secondly you have to give kids to him.
Is it a sex related issue or affair what he has.
What is the age of your kids.
Since you have tried your best and then too things dont work out then you should take a call but before that be prepared and firm,e lse after your decide and file and if he goes soft after that, then you may opt to go back to him, but which will cause worse in near future.
Any queries you can write to me, if your comfortable.
Bye
2006-06-29 21:45:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Phew. I lived through something similar. I did get out though, because when you think of what's best for kids, remember that they have eyes and ears. They see how you treat each other, they hear the silence and the arguments. The clincher for me was that I wanted my children not to emulate this; they needed to know that this was not how normal relationships are and not how they should treat their spouses or be treated themselves.
2006-06-29 20:30:34 · answer #3 · answered by dreamcatweaver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out of this situation. You also need to takes some night classes so you can pursue a profession. Perhaps a support group would be good too.
2006-06-29 20:27:57 · answer #4 · answered by Sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all learn how to use the spell checker..(it's free ya know!) Second it sounds like you oughta get rid of that sucker and find a good man that is playing with a full deck...
2006-06-29 20:29:59 · answer #5 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that. You can not stay together just for the kids..It will never last. Just end it now, and stop the misery! the sooner the better!
2006-06-29 20:13:25 · answer #6 · answered by Foxy V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Luck!
2006-06-29 21:11:18 · answer #7 · answered by sparkling_apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont get divorced.. it really has a large chance of screwing up your kids minds and foxy is a shellfish biatch.. ignore her
2006-06-29 20:21:12 · answer #8 · answered by David 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋