My partner and i plan to move inb together in th next year. He has started to get to know my children but we have been holding back from me meeting his son as a) his ex is very difficult and b) his 8 year old son has said he doesn't want to meet me. We think it's his mum's influence which has made him say that. What's the easiest , least confrontational to engineer a meeting?
2006-06-29 20:03:28 · 7 answers · asked by janey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
somewhere that his son chooses where he is comfortable - local park, what are his hobbies? what he like doing? do something that he likes doing, ie football in the park, try inline skating, whatever he would like. Even if its something you hate doing or think you might look a fool, just do it.
Dont try to talk to much to him, let him slowly adjust to you being around, it will take time, and you my find things difficult for a long time, but you should be able to come to some sort of comfort point where you can be with each other a bit easier.
Dont buy presents unnecessarily- kids see through bribery easily. all you can do is be yourself and let him come around to the idea. It must be hard for any kid to adjust to mummy and daddy breaking up, so just take things slowly.
all the best.
2006-06-29 20:12:41 · answer #1 · answered by lozzielaws 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
where ever you do it, just make sure its neutral territory, go to the park but let dad spend time with his son and you and your kids be there, but not smother him, he will come round, i would agree his mum will be influencing his point of view. its hard on both parents, imagine if it was you, i've been on both sides of the fence. kids are resiliant.
he will come around.
just treat them the same,
2006-06-29 20:55:29 · answer #2 · answered by littlestarr02 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A day/afternoon out somewhere. Make sure he would want to go there and only ask him simple questions youknow he will answer yes to.(e.g. Do you want an ice cream, shall we eat out for dinner).
Take your time with him.
2006-06-29 20:19:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your partner should initiate that and it should be at a neutral place like a park or a restaurant.
2006-06-29 20:33:44 · answer #4 · answered by Bob Mukonka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him take his son somewhere neutral that he likes & go along for the ride... Let him talk to you of he wants.... If he doesnt - well - plenty of time - no rush - let him get to know you gradually....
Have fun!
2006-07-03 02:45:54 · answer #5 · answered by want_to_explore_life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you all go bowling? Make sure you're really bad at it. Be pleasant, but not too 'nice', and remember you're not his mum. Just have a laugh.
2006-06-29 20:17:24 · answer #6 · answered by R.I.P. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jus gettin 2 points, ta
2006-06-29 20:33:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋