my bf and i have been together for nearly 2 yrs. he just moved to tx only for a cpl of months, and wants me to wait for him. he says he loves me but he NEVER calls & only emails ever so often!!! it pisses me off, he says i should be understanding bc of his situation. (family illness) so what should i do? keep my mouth shut and put up with it till he's back or no? so Love him or LEave him??????
2006-06-29 19:52:50 · 13 answers · asked by chickfilet7786 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow, I totally feel you on this! My boyfriend is in Cali with the military and I'm in Louisiana. He never calls either! I honestly thought about breakin up with him, but I guess its just something you have to cope with. I think about breakin up but the moment I hear his voice on the other end of the phone, I remember why I'm in love with him. I wouldnt do anything drastic. Sit back and let him have time with his family...but if it continues maybe you should just sit down and have a talk with him.
2006-06-29 19:58:08 · answer #1 · answered by suthrn_sunshine_lsu 1 · 7⤊ 5⤋
It depends on the severity of the family illness. Some people who are extremely sick or recovering from major surgery need a lot of care, and it can be draining. I have done this in the past, and it left little time and energy to do what I wanted to do. ... But if he's just using it as an excuse, he probably is drifting away from you. Best to find out what demands are being placed on him with regard to the family illness, and then make up your mind.
2006-06-30 02:59:19 · answer #2 · answered by Gestalt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a trip down there and see him. Go to a coffee shop and talk to him and be honest about your feelings. If he can't compromise for you or sacrafrice 10 minutes from a 24 hour day to call you, then leave him, they're are a ton of guys out there that will do so much more and make you feel like a queen.
2006-06-30 11:45:31 · answer #3 · answered by blackknightpictures 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would guess that your bf is either having a tough time with the family illness or he's just stringing you along. I would think that if he really loved you he would appreciate your support and want to communicate with you daily to get through this problem.
Dump him!
2006-06-30 02:58:40 · answer #4 · answered by cunnifungus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's helping to take care of his relative, he's probably really busy. See if you can work out a regular schedule ("Hey, how about we agree to talk/email every Monday/Wednesday/Friday in the evenings" or something like that).
I know when things get really hectic in my life, I can go weeks without noticing that I haven't talked to family or friends, but if there's a schedule for us to call or get together, then I'm more likely to remember.
Now if he consistently forgets or blows you off, give him a warning, then cut him off.
2006-06-30 03:00:40 · answer #5 · answered by triviatm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him how you feel. You have been dating for 2yrs and he doesn't say he loves you? That is strange to me. Also, the fact that he wants you to wait for him - but he doesn't call you and email you daily - that is also strange. Unless your man is socially inept I think that he has some issues.
Talk to him and let him know that you need more than just a phone call once a week. You deserve a guy who loves you and wants to communicate with you daily.
2006-06-30 03:02:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say love him, right now, he's going through a tough time and should be with his family. You should ask yourself, has he ever caused you to doubt his love in the past? He doesn' t need someone whining about this stuff right now.
2006-06-30 03:01:28 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are just dogs and I think that in all his spare tome he's not think of hr's thinking of his girl in Texas so LEAVE HIM!
2006-06-30 02:57:29 · answer #8 · answered by Butterfly 13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say if you miss him that means you truly love him and should wait and see what happends bc if you leave him he might be your one and only soulmate so be careful
2006-06-30 02:56:44 · answer #9 · answered by Jaylynn's mommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesnt love u and he is taking u for granted.
2006-06-30 03:00:42 · answer #10 · answered by zoya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋