I just found out my friend was taking drugs after she phoned me, crying and totally depressed. I know she had been a little down lately, but I didn't know it would get this far. Worst of all, I'm not even a close friend to her. I don't know who she really is, and is confused. The reason she only asked me was because I was always good at writing the advice column in our school newspaper and giving advice for all sort of things. Now I'm really stuck. What should I tell her to help her, or should I start by telling someone else that CAN help her...? [My parents and her parents are crossed out, she forbid me to tell any adults at all]
2006-06-29 19:47:36 · 10 answers · asked by geml0vely888 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Okay, thanks everyone... I will tell her parents, since she's not my absolute closest friend.
2006-06-29 19:55:37 · update #1
Okay, thanks everyone... I will tell her parents, since she's not my absolute closest friend. I knew it was for the best before, but she seemed so desperate and I'd hate it when she starts rumors at school.... as in YIKEs... oh well, its the best solution. Thanks for your feedback!
2006-06-29 19:56:22 · update #2
Talk to an adult, but don't mention the name of your friend to an adult and don't tell your friend you talked to an adult.
First, you are likely to get a good answer from an adult.
Second, your friend is taking drugs and is not rational when telling you to not tell adults.
Yet, all of us are entitled to help. So attempt to help her; but only once. If you cannot assist in resolving her issue, break off all ties. Make it clear to her you want nothing to do with her.
In possibly giving advice, show tuff love.
In praying in secret for her, ask for help.
In possibly keeping her as a friend, show tuff love allot.
In possibly breaking ties with her, be super tuff. This is the most important point I make. When You make an attempt to help but with drug addicted people, they are capable of anything. Break the dam promise, to protect yourself. Bring in a professional counselor to help you more than her. This is all conditional on if you are brave enough to help her. But don't play by her rules, play by your rules.
Don't be manipulated
By the way, when a woman does an act of desperation, it is likely it relates to a man the hurt her feeling.
Here's my advice to you as an adult. You know more about your generation than any adult, so give your best answer.
In addition, never talk with her at all over the phone and never be alone with her. Always meet in very public places.
Those are the rules. If she don't like them, tell her to take a hike.
2006-06-29 20:08:17 · answer #1 · answered by whirl_wind_mallard_man 2 · 12⤊ 6⤋
It's always tuff to understand why people do drugs in the first place and it's always hard to understand what one person goes through after they stop using them but always remember that if that person is a true friend that you care about and shared good times never give up on them,loneliness can sometimes be a ***** and whether she might not be a best friend to you there must be a reason that you ask this question....And about telling her parents...I think you should...Family is the true foundation when it comes to solving problems...But then again you might have to see how close she is with her family too....Good Luck...
2006-06-29 20:22:38 · answer #2 · answered by Eric G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest finding out where she bought the drugs. Then, together you can experience the euphoria of mind-expanding substances. This will be good for you because then you will understand the mind of a user, therefore, allowing you direct experience enabling a more, thorough, well-thought out, -from past experience column. Think outside the box on this one! Not what people tell you you should think. If you don't like this option tell her to quit bothering you or you will call the police. She needs a major wake-up call!! Good Luck!
2006-06-29 19:53:03 · answer #3 · answered by 46&2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to tell other adults, it's for the good of someone else. TELL your parents now. No matter how mad at you she will be. TELL AN ADULT because this is really serious stuff DO NOT keep situations like this a secret from your parents or her parents.
2006-06-29 19:51:24 · answer #4 · answered by Naked 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I guess you should tell someone else about this situation, in this case people do need a lot of support and help. And first, talk to her and help her to define what she really wants - very often a lot of us need to come to certain decisions through indentifying visions of ourselves. Good luck!
2006-06-29 19:53:37 · answer #5 · answered by Olga K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of those times when you need to tell - she's in a dangerous position, she's doing illegal things, and she could hurt herself or others if she isn't helped right now.
2006-06-29 19:51:59 · answer #6 · answered by triviatm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to tell the truth there is really nothing you can do to help her with out her being mad at you . the right ting to do is tell her parents. if she is duing drgs the longer she does them tha harder it is to get off of them and the more it hurts her. trust me iv been there i had a frind that was on meth woked we finally told his parents but the time we did he had od.
2006-06-29 19:55:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u cant follow her rules right now u hav tell her parents before its too late,they r the only once who can take any concrete step to help her.
2006-06-29 19:53:33 · answer #8 · answered by knu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get her some help she needs you to do that for her even if she will be mad at you, its ok, i would rather her be mad at me then her killing herself
2006-06-29 19:51:01 · answer #9 · answered by Jaylynn's mommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://www.teencentral.net/
2006-06-29 19:51:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋