ok i think im pregent and i talked to my b/f about it and he said he dost want kids i am scared that if i am pregent that he will leave me or nothing will be the same should i talk to him about it?
2006-06-29 19:45:38 · 13 answers · asked by love is never true 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Well ask yourself are you ready to be responsible for the life of a child, becasue lets face it whether you have a boyfriend or not you will be doing most of the work that will be invloved in raising this life you may have concieved. your boyfriend says he is not interested in having kids, well there you have it. You are on your own and you seriously would not wish to be with some one so selfish in the first place. seek counselling,or tell a friend and make the decision on your own and learn to love yourself a little more so that you will be more responsible from now on. It may sound harsh but it's a cruel world. Use condoms in future and think about what you can do for this child's life if you are pregnant and go through with the birth. Also always speak up about your feelings as life is a spiritual journey and that means feeling stuff talking about it owning your feelings and being responsilbe for them. Do not allow other people to be responsible for your happiness.
Lets hope you are not pregnant and you can relax, but if you are stop thinking about yourself and whether this boyfriend will stay with you (your only young) you got lots of boyfriends to experience before you settle down with mr right. Life is about self love anyway, try loving yourself enough to make the right decisions for the child you may be carrying. Do not stress unless you truely need to. Take care of yourself young lady and listen to your own intincts on this matter. Have a better day from this day forward x o
2006-06-29 20:05:47 · answer #1 · answered by clarissa l 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well to be more accurate, take a pregnancy test but before that get prepared to talk to him anyway even though it is a possibility that u are or not. I personally would tell him that I'm pregnant and see what his reaction is to it. If he looks like he doesn't care then that tells you that he doesn't love you at all and that he won't be the one for u (true love). If you also tell him that it's a maybe then he may actually stay but after what u said of which he said then that explains everything no matter what.
2006-06-30 03:14:30 · answer #2 · answered by Athleteirish 30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey You can not get pregnant by YOURSELF and if he is that self indulged that he won't even talk to you about BOTH of your UHM...mishaps, then you need to kick him to the curb before you do mess up and get pregnant. If you find out that you are and you want to keep it then raise it the best you can it is not that baby's fault or yours for that fact, But if you find out you aren't get on the pill Girl!!! You can only protect yourself from these things. My ex got me pregnant when I was 17 to keep me and needless to say I have a 6 year old son that I raise all by myself.. I love more than the Heavens but it is HARD!!!Psst The Father left when he was 4 months old and now has 3 other kids by two other women and he hasn't seen my baby in 4 years!!! Good Luck Honey~
2006-06-30 02:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by Proud Moma!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must talk to him about it. No matter what or when having a baby does indeed change everything good or bad things will change. You must first decide what you want to do and then you must talk to you boyfriend.
I urge you to talk to a parent relative priest, someone older who would advise you in your own best interests and help you decide what you need to do going forward. Your boyfriend must be responsible for his child and if he is not stand up about it you take him to court but you must be ready to rasie the child alone if he will not stand up. Also just because he does take responsibility for the child it does not mean that he will marry you or stay with you.
This is a very big deal and I do hope you have someone close who can be there for you and advise and help you. God bless you dear.
2006-06-30 02:52:33 · answer #4 · answered by digimutt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he didnt want kids he shouldnt of had sex with you, he should atleast take responsibility for his actions. If he leaves you for both of your mistake then he doesnt deserve you anyways. babies are a precious thing. i have 2. i was preg when i was 17. my boys are 5 & 8 now. i wouldnt take it back for the world. you will be fine if your pregnant and decide to keep it with or without him. i would talk to him about it and get a test on the day of your missed period. good luck
2006-06-30 02:54:04 · answer #5 · answered by cutie-pie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well before you worry to much go and get a test! Then if your not get the Pill or some type of birthcontrol. Yes, you have to talk to him about it, it's a subject that can make or break a relationship. If your having sex (which in this case you are.) You and your boyfriend need to talk about it!
2006-06-30 02:50:56 · answer #6 · answered by CheDay825 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesnt want kids you gotta think.. Do I?
If you dont than i would suggest abortion, or if your not comfortable with that adoption...
Just because your pregnant doesn't mean you HAVE to have the baby!
But if you do want kids at this time in your life you gotta think is this the guy i ant to be the father of my children???
Good Luck
2006-06-30 02:50:09 · answer #7 · answered by sexy_surf_chick06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? I hate when guys say that they don't want children, but they sure didn't have a problem having sex with you. You should be worried mostly about being pregnant, if he doesn't want to be with you then you have to move on and do what's best for you and that child. Good luck to you.
2006-06-30 04:56:05 · answer #8 · answered by guineasomelove 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to talk to a trusted adult and then a doctor. This is about you, your body, your life and a possible other life. Put yourself first. It doesn't matter what your boy friend wants. This is about you. If he leaves you you will be okay, really.
2006-06-30 02:52:42 · answer #9 · answered by Venusp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, he did have a part in this, if you are pregnant... i would talk to him, if he loves you and cares about you, he will stay with you and you two can work it out. also, he shouldn't try to talk you into an abortion because of his insecurities. if he leaves you, get close to your family and friends because you will need the physical and emotional support.
2006-06-30 02:49:12 · answer #10 · answered by sara t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋