i am married for quite a while now right. i meet this guy a couple of years ago. anyway he is always flirting a carring on with me. i think i am happily married but yet find myself daydreaming about the other man. is this lust or is my marriage headed for trouble? the other man is a hotty!!
2006-06-29 19:18:06 · 14 answers · asked by Luvbuz01 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Lust is a crush, plain and simple.. love is something almost unexplainable, difficult to describe.. the need to be with someone forever and not being able to picture your life with out that person in it.. Is your marriage in trouble? only u know, is it something u can keep in your mind, or something u want to act on, if its something u want to act on, YEP its in trouble.. cause if you really loved your husband.. u'd never even contimplate actually cheating on him, but if its just the flattery of another guy flirting with you, and just likeing the attention, that human nature what person doesnt want to feel that kind of attention.. so its in your court on whether its in trouble.. and how would u feel if the shoe were on the other foot and your husband was feeling this way about another woman????? ..
2006-06-29 19:34:43 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
you are correct to think that what you feel is lust since you are only interested in the sexual involvment with this person! or does it go past the sexual desires?do you think you could spend the rest of your life with this person? most importantly do you think that you are the only one he flirts with?
It is natural to feel aroused when some one other than your normal love is attracted to you its the animal in us and also the reason men act in that way, I dont know what kind of a person you are but If you have any sexual relations with this person I can bet you would feel guilty about it until you confessed to9 your husband and possibly ruin your marrage over a one night stand.
even though he may doing all the things that your husband stop doing he probally wont go the distance that your husband has went for you.
2006-06-29 20:19:13 · answer #2 · answered by roughgar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now...what u feel for the other guy is really lust...love is liking a person even when he/she is not a hottie in terms of looks
2006-06-29 19:41:15 · answer #3 · answered by vivienne_kt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love puts the priority of the other person ahead of your own. Lust is the inverse.
Nothing wrong about lusting about another person after you're married. The problem arises when you decide to act on that lust.
2006-06-29 19:35:16 · answer #4 · answered by Slugg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love > Lust
2006-06-29 19:20:44 · answer #5 · answered by ice cream with chocolate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lust is the charm. Youu merely opt to Kiss Him. contact Him, you want his body next to Yours. Its' a Sensation. it many times Blinds You and Makes it sense Like Love. Love is The Intimacy. Its' the sensation. that is going to Hit you want a Rock. Its' diverse and particular. you'll comprehend once you stumble on "the only'
2016-10-13 23:39:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I separate the person from who they are, i.e. a body part, that person has an incredible bottom, or they are hot, I am separating the person from who they are to how they appear/look. I am also idealizing who they are based on the objectification of their body, i.e., because that person is hot, I would like to get to know them, or somehow they are appealing emotionally mentally because they are hot. As I am objectifying, lust shows itself in fantasy. What would I like, what would I like to do with and to them. So I would say when the idealized picture of this person is replaced with reality, IE., who they really are. You can accept and be willing to see past faults, issues, problems because Love carries no jealousy, love doesn't judge, love don't do anything for self gratitude, love gives unconditionally, love is trust, love is respect, love is truth!
2006-06-29 23:13:45 · answer #7 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lust may resemble love alot but it's not as long lasting and unconditional as love can be. Spend time to work thru the lust and see if love is there..
2006-06-29 19:25:35 · answer #8 · answered by iwannano 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is caring. lust is something that in time you will wish you would have never saw this other man you state you are happley married . lust will ruin your marrage leave this guy alone in time you will only be the one who loses every thing over this guy you meet and it isnt worth it . my opion ?
2006-06-29 20:42:29 · answer #9 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True love you would give your life for that person
True lust you will have your life taken violently w/o consent
Extreme comparison
2006-06-29 19:22:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋