I wanna start early on having kids I'm 21 right now...But I dont wanna wait til I'm 25 and over to start having kids...
2006-06-29 19:13:10 · 18 answers · asked by krissy s 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
first you should talk to your boyfriend about how he feels, he may not want to have children, or at least not yet or maybe not with you. It would be nice if you were married first, but not a necessity. I got pregnant before I was married but it was planned and I was married before my son was born. Both my wedding and my son were planned, just like my second pregnancy is planned it just seems to be taking longer to conceive this time. I conceived at 22, was married at 23 then had my son 5 months later, my husband was by then 22 when Gabe was born. I am 25 now and trying to conceive again without luck so far this time.
You really need to talk with your boyfriend seriously about this, having a baby is a decision that affects you for the rest of your life and you are directly responsible for them for at least 18-20 years. Too many young women are having babies either very much unplanned or because they think that babies are cute. Sure they are cute but are they still cute when they are covered from head to toe in puke and poop, does an unconsolable baby seem any cuter especially if they are teething for the first time or worse yet have colic. Young parents get stressed out easier than more mature parents because they haven't taken the time to finish growing up themselves. Please don't rush into such a big decision, one or both of you may not be ready yet, and once they had you your baby after giving birth, there's no going back and you can't trade them in at the pound for a puppy. Believe me I begged my mom for 2 years for a puppy instead of my little sister. It never worked.
2006-06-29 19:31:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with waiting? 25 is not ancient! 35 is not even too old! The best thing you can do for your future offspring is to be completely in love, committed and married to their father! Also - at 21 you still have a lot of learning and growing to do yourself. Babies tie you down completely and you have to be ready to give 100% of yourself to them. It is not too early at age 21 to start planning for this but it should definitely not be something you rush into. Spend a week with someone you know who has kids of her own and make sure this is something you are ready for.
2006-06-29 19:22:50 · answer #2 · answered by ElkAimz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not have kids with someone who is not willing. There is nothing more wrong than someone who traps men into having kids because in the end it is the women who have to deal with it when he leaves. The age of 21 is still early wait for someone who actually wants to have your babies.
2006-06-29 19:22:36 · answer #3 · answered by linaka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess would be to find someone with similar goals. It could be that your bf is being more realistic about the relationship or financial situation you're in. It could also be that since he has one already, he's not eager for another. DON'T try to trap him by just getting that way, and if his mind is set, you might not be able to change it. On the other hand, try not to be so selfish. You're 21, your time is far from being up.
2006-06-30 00:06:05 · answer #4 · answered by desiderio 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marraige is a good way to start. It will help any future kids at least feel that their family is a perminent unit. If he doesn't want kids or marriage are you with the right guy?
2006-06-29 19:24:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really wait until you're married and financially stable. Plus you shouldn't be getting pregnant with a guy if he doesn't want to, so trying to convince him might not be a good idea, because you might convince him and he might get freaked out and leave you once you're pregnant.
2006-06-29 22:09:05 · answer #6 · answered by guineasomelove 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should wait until you guys are married to start a family.It would be more stable for a child coming into the world
2006-06-29 19:19:27 · answer #7 · answered by Tori C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him at ur place at nite about 11 or so and wear a sexy revealing dress and play some sexy soft music when he enters
push him to the bed close the door and try to get nearer and nearer then talk to him sexily politely in soft voice then remove his shirt buttons and hug him after this he needs no clue that u wanna *** with him
2006-06-29 19:25:38 · answer #8 · answered by smrtzim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the rush? raising a family is not that easy, you have to be prepared in all aspect. your boyfriend may not be that ready yet and he might get pressured, good if he agrees with you and settle an everlasting bond. consider also what you can provide your child..think about it...
2006-06-29 19:27:03 · answer #9 · answered by willow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a bad idea if u have to talk him into it. Wait until ur BOTH ready
2006-06-29 19:20:56 · answer #10 · answered by Maria*&*Maritza's Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋