My current girlfriend has never had someone else give her an orgasm, but she has given herself orgasms when she masturbates. What is it that makes a girl orgasm?
2006-06-29 19:03:40 · 21 answers · asked by Cracker 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
It probably means she's had really shitty luck with men! If you can make yourself orgasm, you can tell a man what he can do to get you there too!
2006-06-29 19:05:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact is that there are many women on this earth that cannot achieve an orgasm with a partner. A woman who knows her body from her own masturbating experience knows exactly what she needs to to to get herself off. Since she obviously masturbates by herself, then you don't know what to do to get her to the point she can get her own self to, orgasm. If she wants to orgasm with you, and you want the same, she needs to be more comfortable and open up to you. She needs to tell you what she likes, and she needs to let you know what feels good and what doesn't. Above all, you both need to relax and don't focus too much on the outcome (orgasm) focus on each others bodies, what you like and what makes each other feel good. Romance it up, get in the moment. Sensuality and sexuality are two different animals.....try mixing it up a bit.
2006-06-29 19:10:10 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To make a girl orgasm, finger the G spot furiously (or use a G spot toy), masturbate the clit fast at the same time (like rub a powerful vibrator body massager on your clit at the same time). Maybe have an object in her a-nus (a turn on by women). You have to be horn*y in order for the orgasm to work, so you may want to incorporate goat weed or any good aphrodisiac (a sexual libido enhancer, NOT Viagra or "size pills") . The G-spot is on the top inside of the vagina. Curve your fingers up when fing*ring. For a libido enhancer, try http://www.directvideoanddvd.com/listcategory_toys.asp. Maybe pop in a porno. Girls love when you rub the inside of her thigh(s) while you do this. [for the guys to do]
2006-07-05 00:08:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As an American woman she is taught from a young age not to feed a man's ego by allowing him to help her achieve orgasm. Just give up. If you want a woman that will orgasm then find a woman not from America.
2006-06-29 19:06:36 · answer #4 · answered by Captain Salamander 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be so hard on yourself guys, its not always your fault. Try asking her if she has some kind of trauma or maybe emotional problems. Are you sure she's not a lesbian? Because I have a friend who is a lesbian who doesn't want to go out in the open and she's having the same trouble with her boyfriend. But I could also be wrong. Just trying to help.
2006-07-05 02:54:45 · answer #5 · answered by dj_alex_burgundy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because of the clit. Try other things other than penetration. Find "Box Lunch" - it's an awesome book about cunninglus (gahh, that word is so hard to write --- it's basically eating her out!). I find that no one can give me anything close to a high because they don't know the 'magic spot', so to speak, and that's okay because I just want to give -them- pleasure.
Also, try asking her what she wants. Every part of the sex, whisper in her ear, "tell me what to do." Figure out a way that you can ask her such things, and still make it sexy.
Have fun~~~!
2006-07-04 22:46:48 · answer #6 · answered by Kage D, 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont wanna say YOURE the problem....thats too easy...an orgasm..is a automatic response like breathing..let me explain...when a woman orgasms..its the inside/back wall of the vagina..and a muscle like a plunger...creates for lack of a better word..."suction"...in an attempt..to bring up the sperm...into the uterus...in an attempt to insure pregnancy.....its what the body does involuntary....the woman doesnt control that..REGARDLESS what they say....i KNOW its true..cuz i saw it on tv....lol..but thats what it is..
2006-07-06 15:43:45 · answer #7 · answered by ninerfaninsanjose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she cums while masterbating then we know she has it in her. I suggest you watch her next time and figure something out. The problem isn't her it you. It doesn't matter that all the other guys couldn't either. She probably just said that to ease you mind. Because, as yet, she obviously has not been sexed correctly; at least not by you.
2006-06-29 19:10:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have to hit her G spot. Buy her a vibrator & use it on her, and also get her to show u how she gets herself to orgasm.
2006-06-29 19:05:50 · answer #9 · answered by catsup 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've got to spend time getting her in the mood. experiment, find out what turns her on. you've got to build up to it. it can be a little bit of work, but it's fanastic for both of you when it happens.
light some candles, get some nice music on, get the mood going dude. also make sure there's no distractions. turn off the phones!
2006-06-30 02:07:12 · answer #10 · answered by the man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋