i was wondering if anyone has been used, i've went out with this guy and he told my friend he only went out with me to get to her and i think that's how we broke up. and i feel like an idiot! i need help has this happen to anyone i feel like when people look at me they know that he used me and they look at me like a disgusting look so i've become shy quiet and that just made the situation worst where i don't want to date anyone else! how do you over come this i feel ugly and i just don;t understand? i no longer talk to neither of them i feel embarrassed! i am so torn from this is because he was the first guy i ever dated!
2006-06-29 18:59:11 · 4 answers · asked by Laura N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why do you let this experience make you feel less? or embarrassed? I say, "good riddance!" It's better that you find out what the guy's intention was and get him out of your system.
So now you get laughed at by your peers. So what? You made a mistake in judgement. You know what, in a few weeks, they'll laugh at someone else who made a lapse in judgement. If this incident is your biggest "lapse in judgement" then you're in for a very happy life.
You can let this incident break you down. Let you feel ugly and shy. But know that this is only hurting you and not them. Mourn for a bit. Then laugh and move on. .
Take this incident for what it is.. a life experience. Learn from it and use it in the most positive way. Don't give up and be stronger. Who knows, one day, you'll use this experience to comfort another hurt soul.
I've read somewhere something that goes like this:
Success comes from good judgement.
Good judgement comes from experience.
Experience comes from bad judgement.
Best of luck to you.
2006-06-29 19:22:28 · answer #1 · answered by Slugg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice is the corniest: Try to get through it, go on with your life, make it a non-happening. No one is as interested as you think they are, so the shame and embarrassment you feel is really for nothing. I know - stuff like this is easy to say and just about impossible to do. But try. Get over the fool and the foolishness and open yourself up to life again. There is a lot of bad out there, but there is more good.
2006-06-29 19:08:42 · answer #2 · answered by corsair24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya i have. A guy friend of mine used me just to get to my best friend. All he cared about is getting in her pants. I was very angry with him and i still dont trust him to this day! You just have to basically forgive and move on. Its not easy! I know lol
2006-06-29 19:20:19 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-06-29 19:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by coolboifromnc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋